. . . This is the blessed lot of the
completely wise man, and also, to a certain extent, of him who is progressing
and has made some headway.
Now what is the difference between
these two classes of men? The one is in motion, to be sure, but does not
change its position; it merely tosses up and down where it is; the other is not
in motion at all.
Farewell.
—Seneca
the Younger, Moral Letters to Lucilius 35,
tr Gummere
To be
constant in character, and therefore also in friendship, is not to be
unchanging in time or place, nor is it just being inactive. It is rather to be
unmoving in commitment to a life that builds itself entirely according to
Nature. The mind and the will are always aimed at that same goal, and they do
not allow themselves to be tossed and turned by circumstance, or distracted by
fleeting passions or petty diversions.
The
Stoic peace and calm, which some falsely confuse with being emotionless, follows
from this fairly simple dedication. Such tranquility understands that
everything needed to be a good man, and to be a friend, and therefore to be
happy, is already there within us.
Now the
truly wise man has, through right estimation and good habit, made himself not
physically immovable, but mentally and emotionally immovable. He will be quite
content with whatever life throws at him, because he has learned to be content
with himself and to be his own master.
Those of
us who are still learning and struggling will recognize and center upon the
right state of life, but we will still find ourselves buckled by our
conditions. This is not ground for despair, but for hope. I have my eye firmly
on the target, and now I must simply steady my hands to follow through.
I think
of the fond memories, and also the many bumps and bruises, when I learned to
ride a bicycle. At first I couldn’t even balance myself at all. Then, as I was
learning, I wobbled around in comic fashion, always gripping the handlebars
tightly as I muddled my way forward. Then, one day, it all came together. I
could maintain that balance with no conscious effort, and I could stay the
course with confidence. At that young age it seemed like the most joyous
freedom. And so, in a sense, it is with Stoic practice.
I certainly
still stumble, and sometimes fall, but I remain immovable in knowing who I must
be, and what sort of friends I must seek out. I have learned to recognize that
I have always chosen and lived poorly when I seek the companionship of the sort
of people who are morally never in one place, and I have always chosen and
lived well when I commit to friends who know who are they are and where they
are at.
The
friends we choose, and the reasons why we choose them, will be a direct
reflection of our own inner values, for good or for ill.
He that walks with wise men shall
be wise, but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.
—Proverbs 13:20Written in 9/1999
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