Building upon many years of privately shared thoughts on the real benefits of Stoic Philosophy, Liam Milburn eventually published a selection of Stoic passages that had helped him to live well. They were accompanied by some of his own personal reflections. This blog hopes to continue his mission of encouraging the wisdom of Stoicism in the exercise of everyday life. All the reflections are taken from his notes, from late 1992 to early 2017.
The Death of Marcus Aurelius
Wednesday, September 16, 2026
Henry David Thoreau 18
Thursday, January 15, 2026
Seneca, Moral Letters 83.7
Nevertheless, he applied himself most diligently to his official duties, which included the guardianship of the city. Even the sainted Augustus trusted him with secret orders when he placed him in command of Thrace. Piso conquered that country.
Tiberius, too, trusted him when he took his holiday in Campania, leaving behind him in the city many a critical matter that aroused both suspicion and hatred.
I fancy that it was because Piso’s drunkenness turned out well for the Emperor that he appointed to the office of city prefect Cossus, a man of authority and balance, but so soaked and steeped in drink that once, at a meeting of the Senate, whither he had come after banqueting, he was overcome by a slumber from which he could not be roused, and had to be carried home.
It was to this man that Tiberius sent many orders, written in his own hand—orders which he believed he ought not to trust even to the officials of his household. Cossus never let a single secret slip out, whether personal or public.
I have a huge supply of shocking stories about drinking, some from my own time as a boozer, and others from my later attempts at helping others to kick the habit. The vast majority of them will remain locked in the vault, because I have never found much use in embarrassing anyone, but a very few, made suitably anonymous, can serve as cautionary tales, which have an uncanny way of reminding us how easy it is to go over the edge.
Every year or so, an old bar companion will call me to reminisce about our inane attempts at making it to an exclusive house party, where we knew the top-shelf liquor would flow freely and there would be a mountain of cocaine on the coffee table. His car ended up abandoned in a field, while I somehow walked across six lanes of the interstate, and when we finally stared at each other in the fancy kitchen, we suddenly knew we had both hit rock bottom.
And why do we go through this annual ritual of digging up the past? It actually restores our shared commitment to self-restraint, because there are times when being scared straight is the best remedy. Sarcastically saying “Yeah, good times!” is a way of restoring our supply of fortitude; I oddly find myself looking forward to the next recounting.
The accounts of Piso and Cossus as “functional alcoholics” leave me with mixed feelings. On the one hand, their exploits appear harmless enough, perhaps even eccentric and charming, while on the other hand, I am all too aware that these can never be the ways of decent men. I do not think that Seneca is trying to absolve them of their sins, but he is rather cautioning us against the hysteria of the pearl-clutchers, who find it so easy to cast someone aside by attaching a cheap stigma.
That fellow who accompanied me on the ridiculous quest to fry our brains? He was already someone of importance back then, and he holds a position of even greater responsibility now. There is no evasion in saying that he was extremely good in some ways, though also extremely bad in others.
Don’t always believe the moral caricatures painted by the prigs and the prudes, who will gladly throw out the baby with the bathwater. For there to be something wrong does not mean that there can be nothing right; if they were correct, it would be impossible for any of us to ever improve.
Wednesday, August 28, 2024
Dio Chrysostom, On Kingship 1.5
"Hermes then explained the nature of the place to Heracles as he led him thither. But when Heracles, ambitious youth that he was, longed to see what was within, he said, 'Follow, then, that you may see with your own eyes the difference in all other respects also, things hidden from the foolish.'
"Now when Heracles beheld the woman, he was abashed and blushes mantled his cheeks, for he felt that respect and reverence for her which a good son feels for a noble mother. Then he asked Hermes which of the deities she was, and he replied, 'Lo, that is the blessed Lady Royalty, child of King Zeus.'
"When they entered, they discovered Tyranny seated aloft, of set purpose counterfeiting and making herself like to Royalty, but, as she imagined, on a far loftier and more splendid throne, since it was not only adorned with innumerable carvings, but embellished besides with inlaid patterns of gold, ivory, amber, ebony, and substances of every color. Her throne, however, was not secure upon its foundation nor firmly settled, but shook and slouched upon its legs. And in general things were in disorder, everything suggesting vainglory, ostentation, and luxury—many scepters, many tiaras and diadems for the head.
"Now when Heracles had viewed all this also to his heart's content, Hermes asked him which of the two scenes pleased him and which of the two women.
Tuesday, August 27, 2024
Dio Chrysostom, On Kingship 1.4
"Hear, therefore, the following tale and listen with vigilance and attention that you may remember it clearly and pass it on to that man whom I say you will meet. It has to do with this god in whose presence we now are.
"This, also, is told of Heracles: that he went unclothed and unarmed except for a lion's skin and a club, and they add that he did not set great store by gold or silver or fine raiment, but considered all such things worth nothing save to be given away and bestowed upon others. At any rate he made presents to many men, not only of money without limit and lands and herds of horses and cattle, but also of whole kingdoms and cities. For he fully believed that everything belonged to him exclusively and that gifts bestowed would call out the good-will of the recipients.
Wednesday, August 7, 2024
Cicero, Tusculan Disputations 4.15
The opposite to this is viciousness (for so I choose to translate what the Greeks call κακία, rather than by perverseness; for perverseness is the name of a particular vice; but viciousness includes all), from whence arise those perturbations which, as I just now said, are turbid and violent motions of the mind, repugnant to reason, and enemies in a high degree to the peace of the mind and a tranquil life.
For they introduce piercing and anxious cares, and afflict and debilitate the mind through fear; they violently inflame our hearts with exaggerated appetite, which is in reality an impotence of mind, utterly irreconcilable with temperance and moderation, which we sometimes call desire, and sometimes lust, and which, should it even attain the object of its wishes, immediately becomes so elated that it loses all its resolution, and knows not what to pursue; so that he was in the right who said “that exaggerated pleasure was the very greatest of mistakes.”
Virtue, then, alone can effect the cure of these evils.
From all those years of reflecting on various Wisdom Traditions, my head now takes it as certain that virtue is the highest human good, even as my gut would often like to tell me otherwise. At the very least, I know in which direction I should be aiming, though sadly that aim will still fall short. I accept it to be a lifelong process, precisely because it is the most essential of all tasks.
I must still remind myself, however, that so many of the people I come across in this life do not share in my convictions, and that is itself the challenge of choosing to love those who do not themselves rate love so highly. On a purely practical level, folks will grant that moral decency is somehow important, and yet they will then offer a lengthy list of other things they believe to be equally important, wishing to have it in as many ways as possible. We too quickly forget that warning about trying to serve two masters.
So, the default position, the one that sounds the safest and the least demanding, is to speak of a “good” life as blending together sufficient bits of wealth, pleasure, and reputation, wrapped up in a general appearance of kindness, since that last bit is the one that is usually most effective at providing for the other three. Still, there will be those moments when being “nice” is no longer as convenient, and then we see how quickly the gloves come off.
I think of how Socrates taught that virtue does not come from money, but that from virtue comes money, and all of the other “things” we call good in this life. The benefit or the harm of any circumstance depends entirely on whether we choose to use it well, and this, in turn, hinges upon the presence or absence of character. Wickedness always brings misery, whatever tempting means of gratification is brought into the mix.
Reason provides the direction of order and purpose, while a surrender to a mere impression is a guarantee of being swept away by the extremes of passion. Far from fulfilling us, an unbridled urge is never satisfied, for it knows of no limit, and so it leaves us bound in chains. Socrates, Cicero, or Seneca, like all the wise who praise virtue, are calling us to the total liberty of self-rule, where our judgments guide the way to an inner peace.
Friday, May 3, 2024
Wednesday, February 21, 2024
Epictetus, Discourses 2.5.2
“Do you mean then that outward things are to be used without care?”
By no means. For this again is evil for the will and unnatural to it. They must be used with care, for their use is not a matter of indifference, but at the same time with constancy and tranquility, for in themselves they are indifferent.
For where the true value of things is concerned, no one can hinder or compel me. I am subject to hindrance and compulsion only in matters which lie out of my power to win, which are neither good nor evil, but they may be dealt with well or ill, and this rests with me.
It is difficult to unite and combine these qualities—the diligence of a man who devotes himself to material things, and the constancy of one who disregards them—yet not impossible. Otherwise, it would be impossible to be happy.
—from Epictetus, Discourses 2.5
Here is a great danger, of taking a Stoic “indifference” to mean that I should have no concern about the outside world, or that I should withdraw into myself and be reckless about the consequences of my deeds. If it’s all about my thoughts, why not forget the outcome?
The false dichotomies must cease. There is no conflict between my needs and your needs. There is no opposition between intention and action. What Nature asks of me on the inside must be expressed with total integrity on the outside.
I must start from the interior, and work to the exterior. I am unfortunately accustomed to the reverse, the monstrous concept that I must conform, that I must follow, that I must obey the man with the biggest muscles, or the finest credentials, or the thickest wallet.
Where there is a sound mind and a brave heart, there will also be an impeccable commitment to living with virtue—by their fruits shall you know them. Don’t trust the fellow who speaks well, trust the fellow who does well, and strive to share what is good within yourself with those around you.
The error is in thinking that being indifferent means not caring at all, when for the Stoic it is rather a matter of how and why we should care.
The essential task of being human demands the formation of character, and to that end, all other conditions, however convenient or inconvenient, must be measured according to this standard. While all things have their own innate goodness, when I approach my own relationship to them, I am called to consider how I can employ them for the increase of my virtues, and for the decrease of my vices. Everything else is relative.
With such a standard constantly in mind, I need no longer be ruled by my circumstances, but I can be confident in my ability to act rightly, whatever may happen. When I have acted in good conscience, I can then also be certain that, by playing my own part, I have contributed to the harmony and the balance of the whole.
Friday, September 8, 2023
Cicero, Tusculan Disputations 3.17
“Take fortitude for your guide, which will give you such spirits that you will despise everything that can befall man, and look on it as a trifle.
“Add to this temperance, which is moderation, and which was just now called frugality, which will not suffer you to do anything base or bad—for what is worse or baser than an effeminate man?
“Not even justice will suffer you to act in this manner, though she seems to have the least weight in this affair; but still, notwithstanding, even she will inform you that you are doubly unjust when you both require what does not belong to you, inasmuch as though you who have been born mortal demand to be placed in the condition of the immortals, and at the same time you take it much to heart that you are to restore what was lent you.
“What answer will you make to prudence, who informs you that she is a virtue sufficient of herself both to teach you a good life and also to secure you a happy one? And, indeed, if she were fettered by external circumstances, and dependent on others, and if she did not originate in herself and return to herself, and also embrace everything in herself, so as to seek no adventitious aid from any quarter, I cannot imagine why she should appear deserving of such lofty panegyrics, or of being sought after with such excessive eagerness.”
Now, Epicurus, if you call me back to such goods as these, I will obey you, and follow you, and use you as my guide, and even forget, as you order me, all my misfortunes; and I will do this the more readily from a persuasion that they are not to be ranked among evils at all.
But you are for bringing my thoughts over to pleasure. What pleasures? Pleasures of the body, I imagine, or such as are recollected or imagined on account of the body. Is this all? Do I explain your opinion rightly? For your disciples are used to deny that we understand at all what Epicurus means.
This is what he says, and what that subtle fellow, old Zeno, who is one of the sharpest of them, used, when I was attending lectures at Athens, to enforce and talk so loudly of; saying that he alone was happy who could enjoy present pleasure, and who was at the same time persuaded that he should enjoy it without pain, either during the whole or the greatest part of his life; or if, should any pain interfere, if it was very sharp, then it must be short; should it be of longer continuance, it would have more of what was sweet than bitter in it; that whosoever reflected on these things would be happy, especially if satisfied with the good things which he had already enjoyed, and if he were without fear of death or of the Gods.
While the hedonism of Epicurus is far from the boundless consumption and gratification we are so familiar with in our everyday lives, it remains a form of hedonism nonetheless, for it still makes the presence of pleasure, however moderated, and the absence of pain, however endured, the necessary conditions for a good life.
Observe how many people will automatically assume that happiness is no more than a subjective feeling, and you will then recognize how deeply imbedded such a dependence on the appetites is in our attitudes. You will be met with a blank stare if you suggest that the value of the passions is relative to the value of the thoughts and the actions that stand behind them.
Neither Cicero nor the admittedly more rigorous Stoic wish to deny the place of the emotions, but they rather argue why they must be understood within the greater context of character. The good man may well feel good about his deeds, but it is the way that he judges and chooses to live that are the root of his self-worth.
And so the study and practice of philosophy, undertaken in my own peculiar way, have encouraged me to always ask myself whether I am merely gaining pleasure or seeking after the virtues. Which of these will be my highest goal?
Over the years, the story about Hercules at the Crossroads, where he had to decide between pursuing gratification or conscience as the best path for his life, has become something of an ideal standard for my own choices, however mundane. I believe all of us must make that determination, sooner or later, and when I feel the lure of Pleasure, I then imagine what Virtue might say to offer me a better option. If only I bother to listen, her advice does not steer me wrong.
Pythagoras, Socrates, or Plato always mirror her wisdom, and while different schools of philosophy will stress different methods and principles, those who embrace human nature as essentially rational will also revere moral excellence as the greatest quality any person can possess.
If I have the integrity of my convictions, how can fortune ever stand against me? As long as I am loyal to the cardinal virtues, I can know with certainty that I am doing what I was made to do, for these virtues are the perfection of my very identity. They are the pillars that support happy living.
Fortitude makes worldly obstacles seem insignificant in the face of a noble spirit.
Temperance allows me to rise above temptations by showing me how little I really need.
Justice reminds me to be content with what is my own, and to share freely with my neighbors, so that there is no cause for making an enemy of any man.
Prudence guides me with the fundamental and profound awareness that the happy man is first and foremost the good man.
I can make as much of a fuss as I like about increasing pleasure or diminishing pain, but all of that avoids the more pressing matter of clinging to righteousness and fleeing from wickedness.
Wednesday, August 2, 2023
Xenophon, Memorabilia of Socrates 25
Socrates: ". . . So Hesiod somewhere says:
Wickedness may a man take wholesale with ease, smooth is the way and her dwelling-place is very nigh; but in front of virtue the immortal gods have placed toil and sweat, long is the path and steep that leads to her, and rugged at the first, but when the summit of the pass is reached, then for all its roughness the path grows easy.
"And Ephicharmus bears his testimony when he says:
The gods sell us all good things in return for our labors.
"And again in another passage he exclaims:
Heracles hearing these words made answer:
But just then the other of those fair women approached and spoke:
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