Building upon many years of privately shared thoughts on the real benefits of Stoic Philosophy, Liam Milburn eventually published a selection of Stoic passages that had helped him to live well. They were accompanied by some of his own personal reflections. This blog hopes to continue his mission of encouraging the wisdom of Stoicism in the exercise of everyday life. All the reflections are taken from his notes, from late 1992 to early 2017.
The Death of Marcus Aurelius
Friday, October 31, 2025
Thursday, October 30, 2025
Holst, The Planets
Wednesday, October 29, 2025
Cicero, Tusculan Disputations 5.40
Our Epicureans cannot understand Greek, nor the Greeks Latin: now, they are deaf reciprocally as to each other’s language, and we are all truly deaf with regard to those innumerable languages which we do not understand. They do not hear the voice of the harper; but, then, they do not hear the grating of a saw when it is setting, or the grunting of a hog when his throat is being cut, nor the roaring of the sea when they are desirous of rest.
And if they should chance to be fond of singing, they ought, in the first place, to consider that many wise men lived happily before music was discovered; besides, they may have more pleasure in reading verses than in hearing them sung.
Then, as I before referred the blind to the pleasures of hearing, so I may the deaf to the pleasures of sight: moreover, whoever can converse with himself does not need the conversation of another.
But suppose all these misfortunes to meet in one person: suppose him blind and deaf—let him be afflicted with the sharpest pains of body, which, in the first place, generally of themselves make an end of him; still, should they continue so long, and the pain be so exquisite, that we should be unable to assign any reason for our being so afflicted—still, why, good Gods! should we be under any difficulty? For there is a retreat at hand: death is that retreat—a shelter where we shall forever be insensible.
Theodorus said to Lysimachus, who threatened him with death, “It is a great matter, indeed, for you to have acquired the power of a Spanish fly!”
When Perses entreated Paulus not to lead him in triumph, “That is a matter which you have in your own power,” said Paulus.
I said many things about death in our first day’s disputation, when death was the subject; and not a little the next day, when I treated of pain; which things if you recollect, there can be no danger of your looking upon death as undesirable, or, at least, it will not be dreadful.
That custom which is common among the Grecians at their banquets should, in my opinion, be observed in life: Drink, say they, or leave the company; and rightly enough; for a guest should either enjoy the pleasure of drinking with others, or else not stay till he meets with affronts from those that are in liquor. Thus, those injuries of fortune which you cannot bear you should flee from.
—from Cicero, Tusculan Disputations 5.40
I had to smile when I first read the opening of this chapter, because while I rarely grow tired of seeing the world, I do very often grow tired of hearing it. I am what they now call an introvert, so I have an aversion to grating noises and to mindless chatter, and this hasn’t been helped by spending so much of my life in academia, which is so full of talk and so starved of meaning.
It has helped me immensely to learn the difference between hearing and listening, to rise above the cackling and to focus on the sublime sounds that can soothe the soul. Please remind me of this the next time my neighbor is blaring his death metal while aimlessly walking around with his leaf blower.
If what they have to say cannot help me to become better, then being deaf to them will not run the risk of making me any worse. Furthermore, if I consider it carefully, I will realize how little of what I hear is within my power of comprehension to begin with, from the confusion of a foreign tongue, to the mysterious meowing of my cat, to the puzzling compositions of Arnold Schoenberg.
Nature has made so many sounds unintelligible to me, and I should hardly complain if she denies me a few more. I must attend to what whatever she chooses to offer, by whatever senses she permits me to retain. More is not always better; if it is enough for me to live with a simple dignity and integrity, I am content.
Now I do so love my music, which has become such a central part of my daily ritual, and I have often wondered how I could manage without it, but if I can no longer listen to my records, I can whistle a tune, and if my lips grow too weak, I can play a song in my head. Deprive me of my hearing, and I can still perform the entirety of Holst’s The Planets out of habit, the first album my father bought me, and which no crippling circumstance can now take away from me.
The human mind is remarkably adaptable, perfectly capable of thriving without so many of the things we falsely assume that we need. The blind man learns to rely more on his hearing, as the deaf man learns to observe more carefully with his eyes.
And what if Providence strips me of both my hearing and my sight? That would be a mighty burden indeed, and yet there are those who have not only endured it, but they have also come to be at peace with it. Could I manage such a mighty task? As much as it even pains me to imagine, my own narrow experience points the way: I now comically pride myself on making it from my desk to my bed in total darkness, across the entire length of the house, simply by touch and by memory.
As a creature endowed with reason, however limited it may be, I have the capacity to bear anything I can understand, and where the suffering does indeed become unbearable, that is where Nature grants me the release of death. They say that whatever doesn’t kill me makes me stronger, to which can be added that whatever does kill me is the final relief. I only struggle with this fact if I treat survival as a good, when my sole good is virtue, through which anything else becomes good.
I once found myself trapped in a wild drinking session with my uncle and his friends, where every new guest who arrived bought me yet another pint. The full glasses were lining up. I realized I could not keep up with these hardened fellows, and I quietly snuck out of the pub, so as not to make a fuss.
Tuesday, October 28, 2025
James Vila Blake, Sonnets from Marcus Aurelius 24
Plutarch, The Life of Cato the Younger 25
Monday, October 27, 2025
Justus Lipsius, On Constancy 1.12
Langius with this conference having scattered abroad some dark mists from my mind, I spoke to him thus: "My father, what by admonitions, and what by instructions you have done me great good; so that it seems that I am now able to moderate my affection toward the native soil, or commonwealth wherein I was born, but not toward the persons of my fellow citizens and countrymen.
"I deny that," said Langius, "and I trust no good man will be offended with me, if I purge the mind of this malady, for it is a very dangerous contagion, and I judge him not far from a pitiful state that is subject to the pitying of others.
"But, you will say, it is incident to man's nature to be moved with affection and pity. Be it so, yet certainly it is not decent and right. Do you think that any virtue consists in softness and abjection of the mind? In sorrowing? In sighing? In sobbing together with such as weep? It cannot be so.
Cicero, Tusculan Disputations 5.39
Diodorus the Stoic was blind, and lived many years at my house. He, indeed, which is scarcely credible, besides applying himself more than usual to philosophy, and playing on the flute, agreeably to the custom of the Pythagoreans, and having books read to him night and day, in all which he did not want eyes, contrived to teach geometry, which, one would think, could hardly be done without the assistance of eyes, telling his scholars how and where to draw every line.
They relate of Asclepiades, a native of Eretria, and no obscure philosopher, when someone asked him what inconvenience he suffered from his blindness, that his reply was, “He was at the expense of another servant.”
So that, as the most extreme poverty may be borne if you please, as is daily the case with some in Greece, so blindness may easily be borne, provided you have the support of good health in other respects.
Democritus was so blind he could not distinguish white from black; but he knew the difference between good and evil, just and unjust, honorable and base, the useful and useless, great and small. Thus one may live happily without distinguishing colors; but without acquainting yourself with things, you cannot; and this man was of opinion that the intense application of the mind was taken off by the objects that presented themselves to the eye; and while others often could not see what was before their feet, he travelled through all infinity.
It is reported also that Homer was blind, but we observe his painting as well as his poetry. What country, what coast, what part of Greece, what military attacks, what dispositions of battle, what array, what ship, what motions of men and animals, can be mentioned which he has not described in such a manner as to enable us to see what he could not see himself?
What, then! Can we imagine that Homer, or any other learned man, has ever been in want of pleasure and entertainment for his mind? Were it not so, would Anaxagoras, or this very Democritus, have left their estates and patrimonies, and given themselves up to the pursuit of acquiring this divine pleasure?
It is thus that the poets who have represented Tiresias the Augur as a wise man and blind never exhibit him as bewailing his blindness. And Homer, too, after he had described Polyphemus as a monster and a wild man, represents him talking with his ram, and speaking of his good fortune, inasmuch as he could go wherever he pleased and touch what he would. And so far he was right, for that Cyclops was a being of not much more understanding than his ram.
While I would like to pride myself on being an observant sort of fellow, I was once humbled by how long it took me to realize that a man I was conversing with across a conference table was blind. Yes, I noticed he was wearing his sunglasses indoors, but I just assumed he was trying to follow the edgy fashion of the hour. Beyond that, he gave no indication of his disability, always facing whoever was speaking, picking up on everyone’s gestures and moods, and completely in control of the space around him.
It only dawned on me once he stood up to get himself a cup of coffee, which he did with far more confidence and efficiency than I could ever muster. I’m afraid I no longer remember his name, and yet I still think of him whenever I catch myself complaining about this or that inconvenience. Here I am, whining over a hangnail, and the man without the use of his eyes is so firm in his character and so cheerful in his demeanor that I must hang my head in shame.
A few years later I had the unpleasant experience of meeting a man who sadly took his blindness as an excuse for bitterness and rage. After asking me to pass a salt shaker, he berated me for doing so in an offensive manner, and my attempt at an apology, though I had intended no disrespect, caused him to hurl it back in my direction. He yelled for some time about the grave injustice of his handicap, and he ended by telling me why I was the one who deserved to lose my sight.
I thankfully kept my cool as the owner escorted him out of the diner, and a moment of reflection allowed me to consider how often I had blamed the world instead of being accountable for myself. What right do I have to throw stones, or salt shakers, when my own indignation will flare up at the slightest provocation? To wish evil upon another is the inevitable result of the deepest rot within myself.
Both of these men merely happened to be blind, for their physical condition did not define them. What distinguished then was their respective attitudes, which is a contemporary way of saying that they worked from very different first principles of right and wrong, either a reliance upon the virtues or a surrender to the circumstances. One man masters himself through his reason, while the other becomes a slave to his passions.
If I can forgive the gravest insult, or carry on alone after I have been abandoned, or continue to act with integrity in the face of poverty, could I not also bear the loss of my eyes? I would no longer be able to see a sunset, but I would retain the power to appreciate beauty. I would no longer be able to read a word, but I would retain the power to contemplate its truth. Indeed, I could even take the absence of the former as a spur to cherish the latter; there is surely a reason why we speak of the blind poet, like Homer, as being gifted with a far more profound form of vision.
My first exposure to Democritus was too cursory, so I only noticed his theory of atomism, and it was not until much later that I paid attention to the stories about his character. He lost his sight in his old age, and yet he was always known for his cheerfulness and optimism, called the “Laughing Philosopher” for being able to find joy and goodness in everything. Though the wise man may be all too familiar with suffering, he does not need to be at the mercy of his grief.
Sunday, October 26, 2025
Saturday, October 25, 2025
Maxims of Goethe 76
Friday, October 24, 2025
Thursday, October 23, 2025
Sayings of Ramakrishna 273
Memento Mori 10
"Death, the final boundary of all things."
"You flourish in wealth, and boast of the society of the great and powerful; you rejoice in the beauty of the body and the honors which men pay to you. Consider yourself, that you are mortal, that you are earth, and into the earth you shall go."
Wednesday, October 22, 2025
Stoic Snippets 272
Tuesday, October 21, 2025
Dio Chrysostom, The Euboean Discourse 9
Chuang Tzu 6.7
Cicero, Tusculan Disputations 5.38
What! Though he should be deprived of the senses of seeing and hearing? Yes; for he holds those things very cheap. For, in the first place, what are the pleasures of which we are deprived by that dreadful thing, blindness?
For though they allow other pleasures to be confined to the senses, yet the things which are perceived by the sight do not depend wholly on the pleasure the eyes receive; as is the case when we taste, smell, touch, or hear; for, in respect of all these senses, the organs themselves are the seat of pleasure; but it is not so with the eyes.
For it is the mind which is entertained by what we see; but the mind may be entertained in many ways, even though we could not see at all. I am speaking of a learned and a wise man, with whom to think is to live.
But thinking in the case of a wise man does not altogether require the use of his eyes in his investigations; for if night does not strip him of his happiness, why should blindness, which resembles night, have that effect?
For the reply of Antipater the Cyrenaic to some women who bewailed his being blind, though it is a little too obscene, is not without its significance. “What do you mean?” saith he; “do you think the night can furnish no pleasure?”
And we find by his magistracies and his actions that old Appius, too, who was blind for many years, was not prevented from doing whatever was required of him with respect either to the republic or his own affairs.
It is said that C. Drusus’s house was crowded with clients. When they whose business it was could not see how to conduct themselves, they applied to a blind guide.
Even if Epicurus was mistaken in treating pleasure as an end, he was right to remind us how we can always find enjoyment in what is truly our own. Where have I been directing my attention? If I fret over a painful circumstance, I will always feel discouraged, but if I focus upon the good within me, I will make for myself a place of serenity. As Marcus Aurelius said, the happiness of my life depends on the quality of my thoughts.
Yet it is easier to cast blame than to take responsibility, and so I am tempted to worry about the things I might lose, instead of appreciating what Nature has already guaranteed. Like a cynical and snarky teenager, I start to make up a list of hardships I am convinced would make me miserable, and I am surprised to find that Cicero is already a step ahead of me.
I am sure I would greatly miss a limb, for example, and just picturing this makes me feel queasy, but the ghastly prospect of going blind stops me dead in my tracks. I don’t know if this fear is equally common in all of us, or if my own peculiar attachment to the written word raises the level of terror; whatever the case, the absence of sight would separate me from my books, and how would I survive without the power to read anything and everything to come my way?
I always had perfect vision, until I recently noticed the pages getting a bit blurry. An optometrist assured me the problem was ever so slight, and while I might need glasses in the future, he suggested that I could avoid the strain on my eyes by simply taking regular breaks from my constant studying and writing. I resisted the urge to offer him harsh words, because I knew he was quite right. Still, I cursed the gods under my breath for messing with one of my dearest delights.
With some time to reflect, however, I realized how it was not the seeing itself that I craved, but the understanding that stood behind any of the seeing. I could do without the scribbles that were written on the paper, but I could not live without the deeper awareness to which all of those images were pointing. As much as I am a creature of the senses, they are entirely in service to my essence as a creature of thought. I was looking for the brightness, so to speak, in all the wrong places.
If you darken my eyes, I would likely be able to adapt, as I have learned to deal with so many other obstacles that I once believed to be insurmountable. If you darken my mind, there is really nothing left for me, or of me, to consider, and there is then little point to wearing glasses or reading books. How quickly I confuse the impression with the comprehension.
It had never really occurred to me how the pleasure of sight is more in the contemplation of the perception, not just in the perception itself. Without my sight, I can still hear, or touch, or taste, and if those senses are also hindered, I still retain the riches of my memory and my imagination. I ought to beware of a rather different sort of blindness in my life, the oblivion of mental dullness.
I have known some people who stewed in resentment over their blindness, and I have known others who did not permit it to hinder their joy or diminish their sense of worth. Once again, the difference is in the estimation.

















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