Building upon many years of privately shared thoughts on the real benefits of Stoic Philosophy, Liam Milburn eventually published a selection of Stoic passages that had helped him to live well. They were accompanied by some of his own personal reflections. This blog hopes to continue his mission of encouraging the wisdom of Stoicism in the exercise of everyday life. All the reflections are taken from his notes, from late 1992 to early 2017.
The Death of Marcus Aurelius
Saturday, September 22, 2018
Diogenes for the Day, 9/22/2018
When Plato styled him a dog, "Quite true," he said, "for I come back again and again to those who have sold me."
Friday, September 21, 2018
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 7.9
All
things are implicated with one another, and the bond is holy. And there is
hardly anything unconnected with any other thing. For things have been
coordinated, and they combine to form the same Universe.
For
there is one Universe made up of all things, and one God who pervades all
things, and one substance, and one law, and one common reason in all
intelligent animals, and one truth.
So indeed there is also one perfection for all
animals that are of the same stock and participate in the same reason.
—Marcus
Aurelius, Meditations, Book 7 (tr
Long)
Everything is made to work together,
within a whole and for a whole. It can feel maddening and saddening, therefore,
when people embrace conflict and opposition. I must remember, however, that
both the use and abuse of free will, itself a function of our rational nature,
exist within the order of Providence. When we choose to get something wrong,
proceeding from our ignorance, it is not grounds for despair. It is a challenge
to learn to make it right. It is a call to freely and knowingly participate in
unity.
We see the struggle in the big
picture, when men wage wars for greed, when they engage in crooked politics for
power, when they prey on the weak for profit, or when they pose and strut about
for their vanity. We also see the struggle in the smaller picture, when we
insult one another, gossip, deceive, or ignore our neighbors.
An example I notice quite often,
from the youngest of children to the most important of adults, is what I simply
call “the snub”. A colleague once refused to speak to me for months because I
told him I didn’t prefer the use of PowerPoint in teaching. For no reason we
could ever fathom, my whole family found themselves socially cast out at the
school my children attended. The person I once considered as my best friend
later moved in just down the street from my old family home, and will now look
right past me whenever I’m back in the neighborhood.
I suspect this all stems from the
mistaken assumption that we only become fully ourselves when we have enemies.
Yet we are, of course, doing quite the opposite. When we separate and divide
ourselves from others, and when we we deal in contempt and dismissal, we are
diminishing both others and ourselves.
All of us live in the same world,
are created for same end, and are made to work with one another. Some people
find it hopelessly naïve and sentimental, but I will still insist that we are
all made to love one another. In a certain sense, I will often say, love does
indeed make the world go round, because the shared desire for the good,
conscious or unconscious, is what moves all things.
People will insist that those in
certain other groups, or creeds, or classes are surely evil, and that they must
be cast out or destroyed. Yet dwelling upon particular differences ignores what
is universally common, the essence of all of human nature within the harmony of
all of Nature.
When someone tells me that my right
and his right are at odds, or that my God and his God are not on speaking
terms, or that my humanity and his humanity can never see eye to eye, he has
only separated us by closing his eyes to what we share.
Someone once told me that we
couldn’t be friends anymore, because we disagreed. All I could suggest was that
true friends could always work at learning to agree on what mattered more, and were
also quite willing to disagree on what mattered less. I often think of the old
saying:
In
essentials unity. In non-essentials liberty. In all things charity.
Written in 9/2007
Thursday, September 20, 2018
Diogenes for the Day, 9/21/2018
To the man who said to him, "You don't know anything, although you are a philosopher," Diogenes replied, "Even if I am but a seeker of wisdom, that in itself is philosophy."
Boethius, The Consolation 2.18
. . . “Out of all these possessions,
then, which you reckon as your wealth, not one can really be shown to be your
own.
“For if they have no beauty for you to
acquire, what have they for which you should grieve if you lose them, or in
keeping which you should rejoice? And if they are beautiful by their own
nature, how are you the richer thereby? For these would have been pleasing of
themselves, though cut out from your possessions.
“They do not become valuable by reason
that they have come into your wealth, but you have desired to count them among
your wealth, because they seemed valuable.
“Why then do you long for them with
such railing against Fortune? You seek, I believe, to put want to flight by
means of plenty. But you find that the opposite results. The more various is
the beauty of furniture, the more helps are needed to keep it beautiful.
“And it is ever true that those who
have much, need much. And on the other hand, those need least who measure their
wealth by the needs of nature, not by excess of display.” . . .
—from
Book 2, Prose 5
Those
who have much, need much. Those who want to receive, always ask to receive
more. Those who expect, will never stop expecting.
Yet
having isn’t what matters. Receiving isn’t what matters. Expecting isn’t what
matters.
My first
proper reading of the Consolation
made me rethink everything I had taken for granted. Though my family had always
taught me that my character was what defined me, the world around me always
taught me that what came to me was what defined me.
My own
efforts, and my own ability and achievements, proper society said, existed so
that I could get some sort of an external reward. My merits were never my
merits, not simply for their own sake, but rather a means for becoming
important in the eyes of the world.
Most
young people tend to be foolish, so I listened to the trends, not to the people
who actually loved me. I would get caught up in the game of life, and I neglected
the living of life.
I never
lived up to the expectations of my snooty prep school, but when I got to
college, I worked my tail off. I intended to make something of myself. And the
whole time, I lost sight of what would make me a better person, in favor of
what would make me a more successful person. I ended up right at the top of my
class, and I ended up miserable.
I cared
for all the recognition, but none of it was my own. I cared for acquiring
things, but they made me no better. I wanted the rewards, without thinking about
what I had to do in order to get the rewards. I looked to what was outside of
me, and I ignored what was inside of me.
I
started to become everything that, in my heart and mind, I knew to be wrong.
Yet I fell for the lies, and I succumbed to all of the temptations. When I
graduated, I had a long list of honors. I also had a broken conscience.
I had
assumed that Fortune would make it all right. I wanted to own things, to
receive things, and I assumed that would put everything in order. Quite the
contrary, it was the most disordered thing I ever did.
To
“have” something, or to “own” something is an illusion. I own nothing but
myself. If there is anything outside of me that I desire, how does having or
owning it make me any better? The value it has is already within itself. I only
become a pathetic parasite. It is hardly good simply because I hold it in my
hand. It was wonderful to begin with. Attaching myself to it makes it no
better, and it makes me no better.
Give me
money, and someone else had to give it to me. It depends upon another, not upon
me. Give me fame, and someone else had to give it to me. It depends upon
another, not upon me. Give me power, and someone else has to give it to me. It
depends upon another, not upon me.
As smug
and satisfied as I will be when I receive it, I will also cry and complain when
I am denied it.
There’s
the rub. Don’t tell me that who you are is what you have, even as what you have
has nothing to do with who you are.
Written in 9/2015
Wednesday, September 19, 2018
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 7.8
Let
not future things disturb you, for you will come to them, if it shall be
necessary, having with you the same reason which now you use for present
things.
—Marcus
Aurelius, Meditations, Book 7 (tr
Long)
Back in middle school, I was told
that another student in my class disliked me intensely. I had no idea why,
because I always kept to myself, but bullies don’t need a reason beyond their
own issues. I was told, in all the glory and grandeur of gossip, that he was
going to beat me senseless. He apparently insisted that bones would be broken.
Yes, I was afraid.
I was informed that the great
beating event would happen after school. For a few days, I made excuses to stay
at school late. Then I started taking circuitous routes from the building.
Then I finally had enough. If it
will happen, I thought, it will happen. I know I’ve done no wrong to this
fellow. I will keep thinking that way, and I will stick with it. Let him do
what he needs to do. I will do what I need to do.
One day, he and his three friends
saw me leaving school, right out in the open, as I walked home. They glared at
me, and I glared right back. Wonder of wonders, they walked away. It could
easily have ended very differently.
This was the experience of a child
growing into a man. I am well advised to keep that experience in mind, at all
times, now that I am a man.
Whatever may happen, or especially whatever
inevitably will happen, is not within my power to determine. Nor do I know
exactly what I may or may not do, or how I may or may not think in the future.
Those are choices I am still going to make.
But why should I be so troubled? I
can make a commitment right now, and everything I possess right now will be
more than enough to manage what may come. I only need to maintain that
commitment. I do not need to provide anything more for the future than what I
already have at this very point in time.
There are no additional
requirements. There are no special tricks. If I can be a good man now, I can
also be a good man tomorrow. No situation needs to change that. So I can be decent
at this moment, just for this moment, and I can push it forward one moment at a
time. The rest will manage itself.
Somehow, I survived my wedding day
with absolute confidence. That didn’t come from any arrogance or assumption. It
came from an awareness that who I was, at the very moment I spoke my vows,
could last for the rest of my life, if only I chose to make it so. Nothing
needed to be added. It was all there, and I had to renew those vows, every day,
even every hour, even at every moment.
It is all there for me now. Tomorrow
can be a continuing of the now.
Written in 9/2007
Diogenes for the Day, 9/20/2018
To one who by argument claimed he had proven conclusively that he had horns, Diogenes said, touching his forehead, "Well, I for my part don't see any."
In like manner, when somebody declared that there is no such thing as motion, he got up and walked about.
When some one was discoursing on celestial phenomena, "How many days," asked Diogenes, "were you in coming from the sky?"
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 7.7
Be
not ashamed to be helped, for it is your business to do your duty like a
soldier in the assault on a town.
How
then, if being lame you cannot mount up on the battlements alone, but with the
help of another it is possible?
—Marcus
Aurelius, Meditations, Book 7 (tr
Long)
My wife and I will sometimes say,
only half in jest, that we suffer from abandonment and betrayal issues
respectively. This can be a volatile mixture, sometimes amusing, and sometimes
disturbing. In either case, for us it means we feel that we’ve been ignored or
cast aside once too often, so we find it hard to trust, and we find it hard to
accept help. It breeds stubborn suspicions. “I’m fairly sure I can’t count on
someone else, so I might as well do it all by myself.”
Yet here following only our
passions, loosed from our understanding, will only do us even greater harm.
Rational animals were not meant to merely go it alone, because reason is
ordered toward being cooperative. Yes, selfish, dishonest, and disloyal people
will certainly hang you out to dry. Now learn to trust and commit to the right
sorts of people, and leave the scoundrels at arm’s length. Don’t throw the baby
out with the bathwater, or let one bad man lead you to assume that all of them
are bad.
I might somehow feel like I am
stronger when I stand only with myself, when in fact I am actually deciding to
let myself be weaker. Yes, every man is only his own master. But many men
together, each choosing to assist the other in ruling himself, can support one
another in ways that an individual alone can never do.
Now I’ve heard people say that they
have my back, and they haven’t always been sincere about it. But when they are
sincere, and when I can rely upon genuine friendship, we are now twice, three
times, a dozen times more effective in pursuing a shared goal and purpose than
we were on our own. That is a wonderful and a beautiful thing, and no
disappointments should discourage us from seeking it out.
Sometimes circumstances will indeed
leave me with no companions, with no support, and with no one to lean on. In
such cases, my own mind and will are all that I have, and I will work with what
I have. But if Providence has granted me the chance to stand together with
another, I would be a fool to cast such an opportunity aside. People are at
their best when they work together.
Sentimental moments are hardly bad
things if they are not merely trivial. At the time when I felt the most alone in
my life, I came across a family of ducks in the park near my house. I noticed
how the drake and the hen carefully kept their eyes on everything around them,
while the ducklings tumbled about in the grass. Look at how Nature has made
them, I told myself. How odd that seeing a few ducks together could give me
strength and encouragement.
The harder side of us may enjoy the
inspiration of military images, and the gentler side of us may prefer the image
of marriage and family. For me it ended up being ducks.
Written in 8/2007
Diogenes for the Day, 9/19/2018
Being asked what was the right time to marry, Diogenes replied, "For a young man not yet. For an old man never at all."
Tuesday, September 18, 2018
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 7.6
How
many after being celebrated by fame have been given up to oblivion, and how
many who have celebrated the fame of others have long been dead.
—Marcus
Aurelius, Meditations, Book 7 (tr
Long)
Marcus Aurelius has a handful of
themes he returns to time and time again, and though I haven’t done a formal
count, I imagine this is one of the most common. Now some people have told me that
repetition is a sign of sloppy thinking and poor writing, but all questions of
theory and style aside, reiteration serves a very powerful practical purpose.
It helps us to remember. It builds a strength of habit. It guides us back when
we are diverted.
Stoicism has always been something
more to me than just a philosophy of profound reflection. I may turn to Plato,
or Aristotle, or Aquinas if I wish to contemplate principles. But I turn to
Seneca, Epictetus, or Marcus Aurelius when I need very concrete help in my
daily living. And whenever I feel that tug of reputation or status, I remind
myself, time and time again, just how shallow and fleeting such a life truly
is.
I do not even need to be an old man
to see it. Most of what was praised and revered even a few years ago is now
almost completely forgotten. When I was a teenager, girls would swoon at the
sight of Duran Duran. Now they don’t even recognize the name. Great political
heroes have risen, and they have fallen, and they have slipped into obscurity.
Perhaps when they pass away, they will be briefly venerated for a moment on the
evening news, only to be forgotten again. Each year, children have a new toy
they want for Christmas, and the favorite from last year is packed up in a box
in the attic.
It works even better closer to home.
Do you remember that fellow who was the most popular, handsome, and charming
one in the whole class, the one everyone thought would always be the king? I
recall his face, but the name seems to escape me. Do you remember that girl who
would strut along so confidently, and how your whole life rose and fell by
whether she paid attention to you? Now you wouldn’t even recognize her.
Even in that stuffy world of
academia, where you’d think time inches along, where the classics are surely
always the classics, where nothing every really seems to change, there is still the
trendy thinker, or an engaging idea, or a clever argument of the moment, and it
is all cast aside when something shinier comes around. I would spend hours and
hours in the stacks of my college library, leafing through books no one had
opened for many years, if not decades. You’d read some great praise on the dust
cover about how this was a text that would change the world. Now it is unknown,
much like the name of the once-important scholar who gave the praise.
As soon as I recall how quickly
everything passes, it helps me to laugh at myself, to see how ridiculous all of
my petty concerns about making my mark, about being important, about being respected
actually are. It all has nothing to do with me, and it won’t last.
It turns me back to what has
everything to do with me. For however short a time I may be here, I am the
master of my own thoughts and deeds. Whether they are admired, or even noticed
at all, makes no difference. There is one great aspect of liberation.
Written in 8/2007
Monday, September 17, 2018
Diogenes for the Day, 9/18/2018
Someone had been reading aloud for a very long time, and when he was near the end of the roll, pointed to a space with no writing on it. "Cheer up, my men," cried Diogenes, "there's land in sight!"
Peter Brook, The Mahabharata
Some say Brook made an epic available for a new audience. Others say he was a racist, because, ironically, he employed a multi-racial cast. All I know, and only for myself, is that this film changed my life, only for the better.
"It's the poetical history of mankind. If you listen carefully, at the end you'll be someone else."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yhqkRGISQr8
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 7.5
Is
my understanding sufficient for this or not? If it is sufficient, I use it for
the work as an instrument given by the Universal Nature.
But
if it is not sufficient, then either I retire from the work and give way to him
who is able to do it better, unless there be some reason why I ought not to do
so. Or I do it as well as I can, taking to help me the man who, with the aid of
my ruling principle, can do what is now fit and useful for the general good.
For
whatsoever either by myself or with another I can do, ought to be directed to
this only, to that which is useful and well suited to society.
—Marcus
Aurelius, Meditations, Book 7 (tr
Long)
This text combines two great pieces
of Classical wisdom. Every man knows and can do some things well, but no man
knows and can do everything well. Join your efforts with others, so that we
might better aim for the good of all.
Each of these truths is often ignored
or misunderstood. Many of us are convinced that we are the masters of many
things, yet humble experience should teach us how little we understand. Many of
us reduce knowledge and ability merely to the technical realm, the skills of
this or that trade, yet the greater awareness must rest in the moral realm, the
achievement of true human excellence. We neglect the end at the expense of the
means.
Many of us are convinced that life
must be a constant struggle between persons, a war where success for some means
failure for others, yet the benefit of all people can only be necessarily
joined together. Many of us, while speaking of the common good, assume that
what is good for us is merely money, or security, or health, or leisure, yet
such things can only exist as a means for our virtue. Again, we neglect the end
at the expense of the means.
So we end up with two grave errors we
are all prone to falling into: “I can do it all myself”, and “I should do it
for myself”. No, we are made to do it together, and we are made for one
another.
At first, admitting that I don’t
understand something, or that I am not gifted in a certain way, or that
something is beyond my ability can be difficult for me to accept. I may feel
weak, inadequate, or incompetent. But once I begin to recognize that the whole
world isn’t just about me, but about everything working together, each part in
its own distinct and unique way, I can come to find comfort in this. I don’t
have to be the strongest or the best. I can come to accept myself for what I
am, knowing that all things exist in a balance. I am playing my part, and I
don’t need to play all the other parts.
We often pay a certain lip service
to the idea of the common good, but too often it remains just a vague idea. I
somehow know I should be working toward such a goal, but then I get caught up
only in myself. It is only when I remember my own purpose in this world, to
live with wisdom and virtue, to know what is true and to love what is good,
that I can also remember how everyone else is made for this exact same purpose.
It isn’t about making people richer, or more powerful, or more gratified. It’s
about helping one another to simply become better.
We may not all have the same means
at our disposal, but we are all made for the same end. The good for all us isn’t
about accumulating more means for ourselves, but sharing whatever means we may
have to work for that end.
No man is insignificant, or disposable, or unnecessary. All will play
their own part when they work together for the whole.
Written in 8/2007
Diogenes for the Day, 9/17/2018
Seeing the child of a courtesan throw stones at a crowd, he cried out, "Take care you don't hit your father."
Saturday, September 15, 2018
Krishna and Arjuna
A sad and confused teenager once turned to the local PBS station, because he was tired of being sold sex. money, and lies on all the other networks. He ran across a rather odd show. It was an artsy film adaptation of the Mahabharata, that great Hindu epic. He happened to tune in a bit too late, well into the narrative. He knew that the Mahabharata was a deeply sacred text, and he was suddenly fascinated.
That young fellow didn't know if this version by Peter Brook was faithful or accurate to the source, but he knew that it touched his soul more deeply than he could ever explain. He saw Krishna explain to Arjuna about action, intention, and purpose. The film, offering only the briefest summary of the Bhagavad Gita, asked him to consider detachment.
"I am in anguish. I can't see where my duty lies! Teach me."
"Victory and defeat are the same. . . Seek detachment, fight without desire."
"Renunciation is not enough. You must act, yet action mustn't dominate you. . . In the heart of action, you must remain free from all attachment. "
"You must learn to see with the same eye a mound of earth, and heap of gold. A cow, and a sage. A dog, and the man who eats the dog. There is another Intelligence, beyond the mind."
"All men are born into illusion! How can one reach the truth, if one is born in illusion?"
"Slowly, Krishna led Arjuna through all the fibers of his spirit. He showed him the deepest movements of his being, and his true battlefield, where you need neither warriors, nor arrows. For each man must fight alone."
"I am all that you think, all that you say. Everything hangs on me, like pearls on a thread. I am the earth's scent, and the fire's heat. I am appearance, and disappearance. I am the trickster's hoax. I am the radiance of all that shines. I am time grown old. All beings fall into the night. And all beings are brought back to daylight."
"I have already defeated all these warriors. But he who thinks he can kill, and he who thinks he can be killed, are both mistaken."
"No weapon can pierce the life that informs you. No fire can burn it. No water can drench it. No wind can make it dry. Have no fear, and rise up. . . "
". . . Because I love you."
That silly young fellow started crying, and the folks he was with thought he was slightly insane. To this day, he thinks he finally became slightly more sane.
Written in 3/1997
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_B4Z1PB97KY
That young fellow didn't know if this version by Peter Brook was faithful or accurate to the source, but he knew that it touched his soul more deeply than he could ever explain. He saw Krishna explain to Arjuna about action, intention, and purpose. The film, offering only the briefest summary of the Bhagavad Gita, asked him to consider detachment.
"I am in anguish. I can't see where my duty lies! Teach me."
"Victory and defeat are the same. . . Seek detachment, fight without desire."
"Renunciation is not enough. You must act, yet action mustn't dominate you. . . In the heart of action, you must remain free from all attachment. "
"You must learn to see with the same eye a mound of earth, and heap of gold. A cow, and a sage. A dog, and the man who eats the dog. There is another Intelligence, beyond the mind."
"All men are born into illusion! How can one reach the truth, if one is born in illusion?"
"Slowly, Krishna led Arjuna through all the fibers of his spirit. He showed him the deepest movements of his being, and his true battlefield, where you need neither warriors, nor arrows. For each man must fight alone."
"I am all that you think, all that you say. Everything hangs on me, like pearls on a thread. I am the earth's scent, and the fire's heat. I am appearance, and disappearance. I am the trickster's hoax. I am the radiance of all that shines. I am time grown old. All beings fall into the night. And all beings are brought back to daylight."
"I have already defeated all these warriors. But he who thinks he can kill, and he who thinks he can be killed, are both mistaken."
"No weapon can pierce the life that informs you. No fire can burn it. No water can drench it. No wind can make it dry. Have no fear, and rise up. . . "
". . . Because I love you."
That silly young fellow started crying, and the folks he was with thought he was slightly insane. To this day, he thinks he finally became slightly more sane.
Written in 3/1997
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_B4Z1PB97KY
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 7.4
In
discourse you must attend to what is said, and in every movement you must
observe what is being done.
Written in 8/2007
And
in the one you should watch carefully what is the thing signified, but in the other you should see immediately to what end it refers.
—Marcus
Aurelius, Meditations, Book 7 (tr
Long)
Sometimes we will use words, but
we’re not quite sure what we mean by them. Sometimes we will engage in a task,
but we’re not entirely sure why we might be doing it. At all times and in all
things, I should pay attention to what purpose both speech and action are
directed.
Language without understanding is
nothing but noise, and deeds without direction are nothing but an empty effort.
So I should pick my words wisely, always keeping in mind what truth I wish to
convey. I should examine my works carefully, always keeping in mind what good I
wish to achieve. What is truly intended? How will it improve my own character?
How might it help others to improve their own?
I will shamefully admit that I spend
too much of my time frustrated by empty talk and pointless business from
others. I should be attending first to myself, however, and managing what is
rightly within my own power. I am probably best off saying nothing at all,
instead of saying something foolish. I am probably best off doing nothing at
all, instead of doing something aimless.
If I examine myself honestly, I see
that most of what I say involves mouthing words to fill an awkward silence, or
speaking only to produce clever repartee, or yapping simply to make myself feel
more special and important. I see that most of what I do has little aim other
than giving the appearance of being busy, or trying to impress someone, or just
blindly doing what I’m told to do, without any thought or reflection.
It isn’t necessarily that saying or
doing less is more, but that saying or doing better is surely more.
As a teacher, I have sadly seen how
many of our efforts involve asking young people to parrot language they do not
comprehend, and to engage in busywork that provides them with no real benefit.
Year after year, I see the newcomers to the vocation, at first on fire with
idealism and enthusiasm, becoming quickly discouraged that they are nothing
more than “babysitters with a benefits package.”
I can only smile, and suggest to new
teachers that they should care less about what the system asks them to do, than
to find every possible way to do what they know they should be doing to begin
with, whatever limitations the system may try to impose on them. Some rise to
the task. Many do not.
Flapping my lips is not the same thing as comprehending. Being always furiously
occupied is not the same thing as being productive. Having real purpose in mind
makes all the difference.
Written in 8/2007
Diogenes for the Day, 9/16/2018
To the question of why gold is pale, his reply was, "Because it has so many thieves plotting against it."
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 7.3
The
idle business of show, plays on the stage, flocks of sheep, herds, exercises
with spears, a bone cast to little dogs, a bit of bread into fishponds,
laborings of ants and burden-carrying, the running about of frightened little
mice, puppets pulled by strings—all alike.
It
is your duty, then, in the midst of such things to show good humor and not a
proud air, and to understand, however, that every man is worth just so much as
the things are worth about which he busies himself.
—Marcus
Aurelius, Meditations, Book 7 (tr
Long)
Sometimes I will feel proud of an
achievement, and sometimes I will feel ashamed of a failure. The cure for
either my vanity or my self-pity is always to remember how so many of those
things we consider to be grand and noble, worthy of the highest esteem, are
actually rather small, petty, and insignificant.
To win wealth, honor, and influence
may seem quite praiseworthy, so much so that a good number of us will dedicate
every bit of our efforts to their pursuit. Let them come and go, as they
inevitably will, but if I think of them within the bigger picture of the order
of Nature, and from the proper perspective of what makes a human life happy and
worthwhile, they are like straw.
The imagery Marcus Aurelius uses to
describe these lesser things is extremely helpful for me. Whenever I find
myself impressed by a big name, or a fat wallet, or the posing and posturing of
fashion, or the deeds of apparently important men doing apparently even more
important things, I only need to go through this list in my own head. My
reaction should not be one of disdain or dismissal, but one of seeing things by
the right measure.
I have a cat that is horrified by
the doorbell. As a toddler, my son’s life seemed to revolve around a fascination
with bananas. I once knew a girl who would stop at each and every reflective
surface to adjust her hair and pout. Now these are not bad things, and they may
even be amusing or satisfying things, but they are hardly important things.
If I can only look at all the false
idols and prophets of the world in the same way, I won’t need to worry about
what I have won or lost in the game. I can commit myself to better things, to
more fulfilling things, to the life of a good man instead of the life of a
busybody.
I don’t need to be angry with the
self-absorbed and shallow folks, but I can bear them with kindness and good
spirits. If I don’t myself obsess about what is trifling, I will not find it
troubling.
At the same time, however, I should recognize
that the merit of any man is clearly reflected in the things of life he
concerns himself with the most. How much grief would I have saved myself if I
had not chosen to admire people who sought career over character? How much
heartache would I have avoided if I had not chosen to follow people who sadly
loved all the wrong things? They say there should be no crying over spilled milk,
but I can certainly learn about where to place my glass on the table the next
time.
Let them be, but do not necessarily
let yourself be like them. Love your neighbor, but do not necessarily love the
same things he loves. Leave the amateur drama, the breadcrumbs, the scuffling
of puppies, or the puppet show exactly for what they are, and dedicate yourself
to your own human excellence.
Written in 8/2007
Friday, September 14, 2018
Diogenes for the Day, 9/15/2018
As for those who were excited over their dreams, he would say that they cared nothing for what they did in their waking hours, but kept their curiosity for the visions called up in their sleep.
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 7.2
How
can our principles become dead, unless the thoughts that correspond to them are
extinguished? But it is in your power continuously to fan these thoughts into a
flame.
I
can have that opinion about anything, which I ought to have. If I can, why am I
disturbed? The things that are external to my mind have no relation at all to
my mind.
Let
this be the state of your affects, and you may stand straight. To recover your
life is in your power. Look at things again as you used to look at them. For in
this consists the recovery of your life.
—Marcus
Aurelius, Meditations, Book 7 (tr
Long)
To think how often I have heard
people say that they can’t help but think a certain way, or that they have lost
their convictions, or that they can’t find the will for something. Yes, we may
feel tired, or discouraged, or disappointed, but while our feelings may come
and go, our thoughts and choices are strictly ours to control. They don’t
simply happen to us, but are rather things that we make happen.
One of the most frustrating examples
of this, I find, is when people engage in a romantic relationship, but then
suddenly say “I can’t help it, but I just don’t feel the same anymore.” Such a
statement is based on the false premise that love is only an emotion. Love
indeed expresses itself with very powerful feelings, but it is more than just a
feeling. Love is a choice, a commitment, and a promise. Love proceeds form our
thinking, which is always within our power.
If a fire within me is starting to
go out, I can always decide to fan the flames. Things will be what they are,
but how I judge about those things, how I choose to perceive them as being good
or bad for me, is entirely up to me. Nothing outside of me ever makes me think
as I do.
If I do not first estimate something
to be troubling, then I will not feel troubled. If I do not first consider
something to be harmful to me, then I will not feel harmed. If I can only
discover what is of benefit within any circumstance, I will always find a way
to improve myself.
I will fail to do this only when I
am convinced that my mind isn’t strong enough, or that my attitude is
unavoidable, or that the impressions things make must determine my own actions.
The mind, however, is not ruled by its own objects. It rises above them when it
considers them, and when it discerns value within them. It will only be as
capable or incapable of ruling its own judgments as it thinks itself to be. The
irony is that the mind only fails itself when it decides it will fail itself.
This is the root, I suspect, of all
most powerful human encouragement, and the source of recovering ourselves after
we have surrendered to the conditions that surround us. I can always stand up
again, I can always revive my own character and principles.
Now some people will tell me that I
can be whatever I want to be, and that I can achieve anything I set out to
achieve. I must add a distinctly Stoic clarification to such a claim. It will
most certainly not be within my power to make the world as I would like it,
though it is always within my power to make myself as I would like it. The true
greatness of any human achievement is never a mastery of circumstances, but a
mastery of the self within the face of circumstances.
Nature has made me so that I can be subject to my own reason, and she has made other human beings to be subject to their own reason, and she has made other things subject to their own principles, all under the absolute rule of Universal Reason. Each aspect will play its own part, and I can always be confident that my own part, rightly understood, is completely my own, and completely invincible.
Nature has made me so that I can be subject to my own reason, and she has made other human beings to be subject to their own reason, and she has made other things subject to their own principles, all under the absolute rule of Universal Reason. Each aspect will play its own part, and I can always be confident that my own part, rightly understood, is completely my own, and completely invincible.
Written in 8/2007
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