Building upon many years of privately shared thoughts on the real benefits of Stoic Philosophy, Liam Milburn eventually published a selection of Stoic passages that had helped him to live well. They were accompanied by some of his own personal reflections. This blog hopes to continue his mission of encouraging the wisdom of Stoicism in the exercise of everyday life. All the reflections are taken from his notes, from late 1992 to early 2017.
The Death of Marcus Aurelius
Saturday, July 31, 2021
Epictetus, Discourses 1.9.10
Heaven forbid! I will not be so blind to my true possessions. But when a man is mean and cowardly, for him one must needs write letters as for one that is dead.
“Make us a present of the corpse of so and so and his miserable quart of blood.” For indeed such a one is a mere corpse and a quart of blood and nothing more. If he were anything more, he would have realized that one man cannot make another miserable.
We somehow convince ourselves that there are so many things we must “get”, and yet it is not necessary to “get” anything at all, beyond a tender care for what we already possess.
Give completely of yourself, without ever demanding to receive. Love, without ever expecting any further reward. Thrive with what you have, and never harbor a resentment over what belongs to another. Here is the Stoic formula for happiness, the simplest, and the most radical, change you can ever make.
It is most certainly possible to do this, but only with absolute commitment; half-hearted efforts and remaining too attached to circumstances are the great stumbling blocks. Yes, it feels frightening, because we don’t know what will happen to us if we choose this path, though it helps to remember that we never really know what will happen to us.
Should I perhaps also seek wealth, gratification, and fame, in addition to building my character, as a sort of further support? Once I have begun to modify my thinking, however, such diversions seem terribly shallow, and their appeal fades. If I know where my true good lies, I will lose my desire for any glittering prizes.
Is Epictetus being too extreme when he says that a man of poor character might as well be dead? The language is strong because so much is at stake. Even if the body has life in it, when the proper exercise of the mind has been abandoned, the very identity that makes us human has withered. Without a sense of right and wrong, a man may walk and talk, while his soul is, in a sense, as if it were dead. The essential has been lost, and it must be recovered to live fully.
I have known a good number of such people, and I have come far too close to joining them, more often than I care to admit. If only flesh and blood are left, men are just creatures of instinct, at the whim of every urge. Pity them, as you would those zombies you’ve seen in the movies: they don’t know any better, because they are dead to wisdom and virtue.
Thursday, July 29, 2021
Stockdale on Stoicism 10
Wednesday, July 28, 2021
Sayings of Ramakrishna 104
Thomas a Kempis, The Imitation of Christ 3.34
1. Behold, God is mine, and all things are mine! What will I more, and what more happy thing can I desire? O delightsome and sweet world! that is, to him that loves the Word, not the world, nor the things that are in the world. My God, my all! To him that understands, that word suffices, and to repeat it often is pleasing to him that loves it. When You are present all things are pleasant; when You are absent, all things are wearisome. You make the heart to be at rest, give it deep peace and festal joy. You make it to think rightly in every matter, and in every matter to give You praise; neither can anything please long without You but if it would be pleasant and of sweet savor, Your grace must be there, and it is Your wisdom which must give unto it a sweet savor.
Epictetus, Discourses 1.9.9
So I wrote for him in a humble tone. And he read my letter and gave it back to me and said, “I wanted your help, not your pity.”
So, too, Rufus, to try me, used to say, “Your master will do this or that to you”; and when I answered him, “This is the lot of man”, “Why then”, said he, “do I appeal to your master when I can get everything from you?”
All noble theories aside, if I take the time to look back at the ups and downs of my life, I am amazed at the quite practical relationship between my thinking and my living. I suppose the proof is in the pudding, and I should not be surprised at all.
Whenever I had sincerely directed my daily attention to a kinship with the Divine, there was also been a corresponding improvement in my power to be most fully human. Whenever I had been more concerned with the weight of my circumstances, that mastery over myself immediately began to slip away.
If I remember where I come from, I am peace with myself. If I neglect where I come from, I am constantly at the mercy of my fears and longings. The focus provides the anchor.
Some say this is a matter of psychology, and others say it is the work of grace, and the Stoic says it is a judgment of common sense. They may all be right—I simply know that it works.
Thinking of myself as a bundle of flesh and desires, I am now just a slave to my own passions. Thinking of myself as possessing a divine spark, my own reason lifts me up.
That self-reliance of Stoicism, then, does not exist in a vacuum, but works within the greater context of Providence. However hackneyed it might sound, God helps those who help themselves.
We are all tempted to reduce ourselves to conditions, underestimating our ability to find the good in whatever might come our way. Even Epictetus succumbed to this, when his letter for a friend tried to tug at the heartstrings, instead of offering concrete assistance. Flattery, leverage, and manipulation are signs of weakness, not of strength; the wise man knows that his happiness comes from the good within him.
Musonius Rufus had once offered Epictetus a useful lesson in this regard. Why appeal to a man’s master, when you can appeal directly to the man himself? Why work sideways, picking at the outside, when you can go straight to the source? It is our own internal judgments that will make or break us, not messing about by rearranging the furniture.
Tuesday, July 27, 2021
Stoic Snippets 92
Epictetus, Discourses 1.9.8
“If you tell me,” he says, “‘We acquit you on condition that you discourse no longer as you have done hitherto, and that you do not annoy young or old among us’, I shall answer, ‘It is absurd for you to suppose that, while I am bound to maintain and guard any post to which your general appointed me, and should rather die ten thousand times than abandon it, yet if God has appointed us to a certain place and way of life we ought to abandon that.’”
Here you see a man who is a kinsman of the gods in very truth. But as for us—we think of ourselves as if we were all belly and flesh and animal desire; such are our fears, such our passions; those that can help us to these ends we flatter, and at the same time fear.
Socrates annoyed me when I first read about him, since I assumed he was just being vain and stubborn. Like so many adolescents, I was busy being vain and stubborn myself, and this town wasn’t big enough for the both of us.
It didn’t occur to me that someone could love something bigger than himself with such intensity, and so I didn’t recognize his wisdom and humility.
I saw many modern intellectuals praising Socrates, even as few of them ever lived like him. Perhaps they were impressed by his sharp mind, or considered him to be a fellow radical, or simply reveled in seeing him leave his questioners frustrated and speechless, but most of them still kept on doing the very things Socrates had explicitly warned us about. They basked in their cleverness, pursued promotions, and allowed their appetites to lead the way.
This taught me very quickly to avoid falling, at any cost, for the sort of sophistry I claimed to despise. I must be on my guard. This work is still in progress.
At the root of his calls for justice, his indomitable courage, and his dedication to wisdom, Socrates was a godly man. This may not be a fashionable thing to say, though I believe it to be true. All his values were bound together by a deep sense of order, that what is lesser must be in submission to what is greater, and this was the Divine calling that inspired his life. The morality goes together with the piety.
He wasn’t terribly fond of hypocrisy, and he had no place for being lukewarm, because he knew that if something was an absolute good, it required an absolute commitment. His religion was not color by numbers, or an expression of tribalism, or a means for feeling comfortably superior—the mission was one of universal service.
Monday, July 26, 2021
Dhammapada 145
Ellis Walker, Epictetus in Poetical Paraphrase 16
Withdraw you mind from such wild thoughts as these:
"If I my wonted diligence forget,
My gainful drudgery; how shall I eat?
I certainly shall starve for want of meat.
If I indulge, and not chastise my boy,
My lenity his morals may destroy;
He still will steer the course he hath begun,
And to the very height of lewdness run."
I tell thee, mortal, that 'tis better far,
With a serene and an undaunted mind,
Than live in wealth to its dire cares confin'd.
As for the boy, 'tis better far that he
Become a proverb for debauchery;
'Tis better he were hang'd, than thou should'st share
A moment's grief by thy reforming care:
"But this is more than difficult," you say,
"Too hard a rule for flesh and blood t'obey."
Yet by a former rule 'tis easy made:
Begin by smallest things, as I have said;
Suppose thy wine be stolen, thy oil be shed;
And thus take comfort: "Where's the loss, if I
At such a rate tranquillity can buy?
If constancy at such a rate be bought?
And there's not anything that's got for nought."
Suppose you call your servant, he's at play;
Or when he's present, mind not what you say;
And is the quiet of thy soul perplex'd
At this? He gets the better if thou'rt vex'd'
He grows your master, while he can torment;
Give not such pow'r to the vile negligent.
Epictetus, Discourses 1.9.7
Slave, if you get food, you will have it; if not, you will depart: the door is open.
Why do you whine? What room is there for tears anymore? What occasion for flattery anymore? Why should one envy another? Why should he gaze with wonder on them that are rich or powerful, especially if they be strong and quick to anger?
For what will they do with us? We will pay no heed to what they have power to do, what we really care for they cannot touch. Who, I ask you, will be master over one who is of this spirit?
I have long noted the great divide between what is taught and what ends up being done. My own alma mater would promote itself as a school that built character, and yet the reality was that we were building an empire of wealth and fame.
In public, there was much talk of “Men and women for others.” In private, there was much sniggering about “Men and women for themselves.” Both masters and pupils maintained the façade.
Put it to the test. For all the fine language of principles, observe how much of the time and energy is then spent on gaining status and making money. There is mainly anxiety about getting more, and fear about losing it.
“But we need to make more money so we can do more good things!”
No, you don’t. You can be just as good if you are rich or poor, satisfied or hungry, esteemed or reviled. If you insist on putting on a show or winning a profit while doing something good, it isn’t really the good itself that you are interested in. The scale of degree does not increase the merit of kind.
Would I prefer for my body to be well-fed and comfortable? Would I prefer to be admired and respected? Of course, and if such things are available to me, I would be a fool not to work for them.
If, however, I do not make them completely relative and subservient to first acting with conscience and conviction, I am reversing the means and the ends. No amount of obfuscation will change that. No one is actually fooled, even as most everyone is pretending to be fooled.
When my belly is leading the way, instead of my head, philosophy is reduced to a gimmick. Whatever happens to end up on my plate is far less important than what I choose in my soul. The clock will inevitably run down, but what I do with the minutes is still up to me.
Words like these will understandably make people feel uncomfortable, maybe even offended; I know that my own knee still jerks on most days. The tension comes from wanting to have it both ways, not from the truth of it. Stoicism, like any way of life that cuts to the bone, is perhaps only for those ready to follow Nature with no further qualifications or conditions.
Once I have begun to embrace that choice, however, the resentment is not as biting, the tears don’t sting as much as they used to, and I feel less need to impress anyone or acquire anything.
Sunday, July 25, 2021
Epictetus, Discourses 1.9.6
“Short indeed is the time of your dwelling here, and easy for them whose spirit is thus disposed. What manner of tyrant or what thief or what law-courts have any fears for those who have thus set at nothing the body and its possessions? Stay where you are, and depart not without reason.”
Don’t be eager for the world to go away; be eager to change your attitude about the world, so that you will no longer feel the need for it to go away.
Then it will not be necessary to think that our circumstances are burdensome, or that other people are a hindrance to happiness; the happiness will be in appreciating why these things are simply necessary.
Though the Stoic and the Existentialist may share a stress on self-discovery and self-reliance, they must part ways when it comes to the bigger picture. For Stoicism, human nature is not inherently thrown and forlorn, but already exists within a service to all of Nature. Freedom does not exclude the Divine, but itself expresses the order of the Divine. When we build our own meaning and purpose, we are working with something far greater and richer than merely ourselves.
There is no contradiction between being myself and being a part of the whole, and there need not be any conflict between the self and the other. Bowing to God can itself be my form of making my stand.
If it has happened, it has happened for a reason, as no effect proceeds without a cause. Once I understand this, I am now free to offer my complete loyalty to Providence, and to joyfully receive the lot that is meant for me. All of it is given so that we can choose to make ourselves better, and thereby happier. Anything and everything, however horrifying or absurd, can be transformed within this context.
This will be quite impossible, of course, if I insist solely upon myself. Egoism becomes the only real enemy, with relativism as its enabling sidekick.
The language of piety, of reverence, and of gratitude begins to make far more sense when I reconsider it in such a light. It ceases to be a chore, and instead becomes a privilege. With my spirit disposed differently, the whole world is reconceived.
The many hurts and hardships, which seemed unbearable, are put in their place. The obstacles are certainly real, yet with a new measure of the good life they can appear as opportunities. If I care first for following my nature, by improving my own character, I do not need to be a slave to money, pleasure, or fame.
Saturday, July 24, 2021
Chuang Tzu 1.2
Sayings of Ramakrishna 103
Epictetus, Discourses 1.9.5
You come saying, “Epictetus, we can bear no longer to be bound with the fetters of this wretched body, giving it meat and drink and rest and purgation, and by reason of the body having to adapt ourselves to this or that set of circumstances.
“Are not these things indifferent and as nothing to us, and death no evil thing? Are we not kinsmen of the gods, from whom we have come hither? Suffer us to depart to the place whence we have come, suffer us to be released from these bonds that are fastened to us and weigh us down.
“Here are robbers and thieves and law-courts and so-called kings, who by reason of our poor body and its possessions are accounted to have authority over us. Suffer us to show them that they have authority over nothing.”
I immediately think of certain kinds of religious zealots, who somehow manage to make God so great in their own eyes that they must draw an imaginary line between the spirit and the flesh, praising the one and despising the other. It doesn’t matter which tradition of faith they happen to be impersonating; they cannot grasp that if they truly loved the Creator, they would also love the creatures.
Some people tell me that we don’t have this problem anymore, since we are now supposedly a post-religious society. Nonsense. It is intrinsically human to seek higher meaning, and so there will always be religious expression, whatever the form. The real problem is when a devotion to the whole is perverted into an elevation of one part at the expense of another part, regardless of the ideology.
You’ve heard it all before, in many different guises: Free us from the sinners! Liberate us from the oppressors! Kill the rich! Deport the poor! Why can’t those liberals shut up? Why won’t those conservatives stop breeding? Deliver us from this world, we demand to have a different one!
The Stoic is hardly immune to such fracturing. I can only wonder if the current revival of interest in Stoicism will have legs, though I cannot help but notice the same old weaknesses already creeping in. I have, for example, now repeatedly seen the term “indifference” used by self-styled Stoics to mean dismissal, rejection, or reducing something to irrelevance.
As someone wrote to me recently, “I am indifferent to your views, so they don’t matter to me.” Even if you’re not listening, I would dare to suggest that being indifferent, in the Stoic sense, is not about denying that things matter, but rather about coming to understand how they matter. Instead of throwing it away, learn that the good in it will be in what you make of it.
Friday, July 23, 2021
Stoic Snippets 91
Wisdom from the Bhagavad Gita 35
Epictetus, Discourses 1.9.4
I think that the old man who sits here to teach you ought to devote his skill not to save you from being low-minded, and from reasoning about yourselves in a low and ignoble spirit, but rather to prevent young men from arising of the type who, discovering their kinship with the gods, and seeing that we have these fetters attached to us in the shape of the body and its possessions and all that we find necessary for the course and management of our life by reason of the body, may desire to fling all these away as vexatious and useless burdens and so depart to the gods their kindred.
Whenever I make an attempt at teaching, my instinctive fear is that I will fail to make any mark. This can be rather misleading for me, since I should never assume that education is about somehow “imprinting” knowledge on others; we are all the agents of our own understanding, and the teacher is only one occasion for committing to that work of self-awareness.
Still, will I be offering the best assistance that I can? Hard experience has shown me that most students are not listening to me of their own choice, and so they are hardly inclined to pay me much heed. I see a good number come in unreflective, simply going through the motions, and I then see a good number leave unreflective, having jumped through the hoops as their masters have commanded.
I sometimes feel discouraged that they might end up just settling for a life of thoughtless consumption and gratification, that it may not occur to them how they are free to live on very different terms. It doesn’t help any when I have a group of bitter colleagues who cynically refer to their own students as “the herd of grazing animals.”
I must remember that people are in their own unique places, and that they will decide to make their changes when they are good and ready. If I have done my best, and I have still not tickled an interest, I have, at least, done them no harm.
What could be far worse is if I manage to grab on to a smidgeon of truth, twist it out of shape, and present it so poorly that I end up encouraging folks to hate this life, instead of encouraging them to love it. Better to have little effect, than be an accomplice in breeding yet another form of resentment.
I have seen the sort of intellectual misery that Epictetus describes, sometimes in others, and sometimes in myself.
Start with a noble ideal, whether it be called the Truth, or Virtue, or God, and then dress it up to be so glorious that it exists only far away from everyday life, demanding that we feel disgust for what is common. It is now a wonderful abstraction, and we can’t wait to run away from the real world to live out our fantasies.
If I am telling people that they must always be angry at the way things are, I am forgetting that an acceptance of the way things are is a condition for growing up.
If I am preaching that everything is suffering, I haven’t carefully looked at anything.
If I am insisting that it must get better in some next life, I am neglecting to live this life with any responsibility.