First of all, free yourself from the fear of death, for death puts the yoke about our necks; then free yourself from the fear of poverty.
If you would know how little evil there is in poverty, compare the faces of the poor with those of the rich; the poor man smiles more often and more genuinely; his troubles do not go deep down; even if any anxiety comes upon him, it passes like a fitful cloud.
But the merriment of those whom men call happy is feigned, while their sadness is heavy and festering, and all the heavier because they may not meanwhile display their grief, but must act the part of happiness in the midst of sorrows that eat out their very hearts.
—from Seneca, Moral Letters 80
When I am not immediately in their grips, I sometimes wonder which of my fears is the most crippling, and so which must be managed first. While the coward is at the mercy of his anxieties, and the braggart insists that he is far above them, the wise man learns to understand himself, and so he distinguishes between the true benefit and the true harm in his life.
I am terrified of dying, of course, because I desperately cling to my existence, forgetting why living well is more important than merely living. Then I am also terrified of never having enough, convinced that my existence depends upon a precarious arrangement of circumstances, all for the sake of security and comfort. Once again, I am forgetting how my worth has nothing to do with my wallet.
We are accustomed to thinking of poverty as one of the greatest evils, as itself a cause of our suffering, and a condition out of which so many other troubles must inevitably arise. While most of us would certainly prefer to be rich instead of poor, the Stoic will argue that it is neither the presence nor the absence of money that makes us good or bad, happy or miserable. This is not a cold and uncaring position, but it stems rather from the principle that our human dignity is fulfilled by character, not by property.
Accordingly, we are misguided when we focus mainly on the distribution of wealth, since it is the virtues or vices behind our actions that make all the difference in our lives. Reduce a man to a producer and a consumer, to be bought and sold, and the envy will never cease. Treat him as a creature called to moral excellence, and the rest can take care of itself.
Once you actually become a good man, you will grow indifferent to luxuries.
I hardly believe that the poor man is any better because he happens to be poor, but we will often find how someone who has struggled with deprivation is far less inclined to define his life by titles and possessions. He knows not to trust in vanities, and so he builds up his inner resilience. Easy come, easy go.
Nor do I believe that the rich man is any worse because he happens to be rich, but we will often find how someone who has been spoiled is far more inclined to feel entitled. He expects to be gratified, and so he privately grumbles at the slightest nuisance. The bigger they come, the harder they fall.
This sort of thinking enrages the decadent snoots, who remain trapped in a game of ostentation. It seems quite sensible to the everyman, who has no need to pretend that he is special. Change the standards, and the old vices are suddenly cast aside. Some play the part of being happy, as others do the real work of being happy.
—Reflection written in 11/2013
IMAGE: Alfred de Dreux, Rich and Poor (1845)