Let everything of this nature be added to us, and not stick fast to us, so that, if it is withdrawn, it may come away without tearing off any part of us.
Let us use these things, but not boast of them, and let us use them sparingly, as if they were given for safe-keeping and will be withdrawn. Anyone who does not employ reason in his possession of them never keeps them long; for prosperity of itself, if uncontrolled by reason, overwhelms itself.
If anyone has put his trust in goods that are most fleeting, he is soon bereft of them, and, to avoid being bereft, he suffers distress. Few men have been permitted to lay aside prosperity gently. The rest all fall, together with the things amid which they have come into eminence, and they are weighted down by the very things which had before exalted them.
For this reason, foresight must be brought into play, to insist upon a limit or upon frugality in the use of these things, since license overthrows and destroys its own abundance. That which has no limit has never endured, unless reason, which sets limits, has held it in check.
—from Seneca, Moral Letters 74
As one who proclaims with Ferris Bueller that a man should not believe in an “-ism”, I am sometimes asked why I nevertheless have such a strong attachment to the Stoics. It is because this school, while teaching principles in line with most any of the world’s Wisdom Traditions, has the blunt courage to follow through on the truth that virtue is the sole human good, and so ardently refuses to compromise the greater for the lesser.
In practice, this means that I can better free myself from trying to have it both ways, the lazy contradiction of seeking to serve two masters. Let me learn to accept either riches or poverty with equal dignity, and to cease making shifty deals for my convenience in private, while I merely pay lip service to my character in public.
Circumstances will come and go, but only an informed conscience can bring me peace of mind, through the thick and the thin. When I am sharply focused on the essential, it is far easier for me to remain indifferent to the accidental, to keep these “possessions” in their proper place. They are simply tools, though I myself will sadly become the tool if I allow my preferences to gain the upper hand.
Once I become enamored of a pleasant diversion, it is often difficult to then let it go. I must therefore be meticulous in my self-awareness and my self-restraint, both of them exercised with patience instead of panic. I would rather err on the side of temperance than be consumed by a hunger that can never be satisfied.
In the end, my hesitation to commit, one way or another, reveals a confusion about my priorities. Yes, most everyone around me chases after money, fame, and pleasure, but I don’t need to listen to them—I need to understand my nature. To make this immediately clear, I think about the young rich man from the Gospels:
“If you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.”
When the young man heard this, he went away sorrowful; for he had great possessions.
To borrow a phrase from the 1990’s, “Don’t be that guy.” Completely redefine your model of success, by flipping the standard from the trivial to the substantial.
—Reflection written in 10/2013
IMAGE: Heinrich Hofmann, Christ and the Rich Young Man (1889)