A Stoic Breviary: Classical Wisdom in Daily Practice
Building upon many years of privately shared thoughts on the real benefits of Stoic Philosophy, Liam Milburn eventually published a selection of Stoic passages that had helped him to live well. They were accompanied by some of his own personal reflections. This blog hopes to continue his mission of encouraging the wisdom of Stoicism in the exercise of everyday life. All the reflections are taken from his notes, from late 1992 to early 2017.
The Death of Marcus Aurelius
Friday, October 11, 2024
Justus Lipsius, On Constancy 1.6
"You see then, Lipsius, that inconstancy is the companion of opinion and that the property of it is to be soon changed, and to wish that undone, which a little before it caused to be done. But constancy is a mate always matched with reason. Unto this, therefore, I do earnestly exhort you.
"Have you not seen in the arms and targets of some men of our time that lofty poesy? Neither with hope, nor with fear. It shall agree to you: you shall be a king, indeed free indeed, only subject unto God, enfranchised from the servile yoke of fortune and affections.
Thursday, October 10, 2024
Maxims of Goethe 55
Seneca, Moral Letters 71.1
You are continually referring special questions to me, forgetting that a vast stretch of sea sunders us. Since, however, the value of advice depends mostly on the time when it is given, it must necessarily result that by the time my opinion on certain matters reaches you, the opposite opinion is the better.
For advice conforms to circumstances; and our circumstances are carried along, or rather whirled along. Accordingly, advice should be produced at short notice; and even this is too late; it should "grow while we work," as the saying is. And I propose to show you how you may discover the method.
As often as you wish to know what is to be avoided or what is to be sought, consider its relation to the Supreme Good, to the purpose of your whole life. For whatever we do ought to be in harmony with this; no man can set in order the details unless he has already set before himself the chief purpose of his life.
The artist may have his colors all prepared, but he cannot produce a likeness unless he has already made up his mind what he wishes to paint. The reason we make mistakes is because we all consider the parts of life, but never life as a whole.
The archer must know what he is seeking to hit; then he must aim and control the weapon by his skill. Our plans miscarry because they have no aim. When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind. Chance must necessarily have great influence over our lives, because we live by chance.
It is the case with certain men, however, that they do not know that they know certain things. Just as we often go searching for those who stand beside us, so we are apt to forget that the goal of the Supreme Good lies near us.
Advice is such an odd thing, for we are always seeking it, yet we are never quite content with what we end up receiving. I suppose that’s actually true for so many aspects of life, and it’s really because we aren’t sure what we’re looking for to begin with.
I have often complained about how some good counsel came too late, totally oblivious to the fact that I remain far too caught up in the whirlwind of the circumstances. Would I even have listened if you had told me back then? All I know now is that I am still discontent, clueless about something universal to provide guidance through the many particulars.
Every so often, usually as a last resort, a student will come to me seeking a suggestion about a specific problem. Now sometimes he will listen, and sometimes he will resist me, but I must be very patient if he returns again a month later, presenting a whole new conundrum that calls for precisely the same principles. I have walked in his shoes many times, so he is always welcome, as long as it takes.
While working through the means is certainly a challenge, I face the greatest obstacle when I am ignorant of the end; I desire the best results in this case, though I have failed to consider what is best for me in every case. As I grow older, and hopefully a bit wiser, I find that the details will take care of themselves once I embrace the ultimate goal, and I won’t sweat the small stuff when my mind is focused on the big picture.
The balance in my bank account is of far less importance than the state of my character, and the quantity of my friends is insignificant compared to the quality in a single act of love.
When I ask for directions, I must first have a destination in mind. I speak of a job being good, or my health being good, or my reputation being good, and the whole time I cannot explain my Supreme Good, that to which all lower conditions must conform, that to which nothing else can be added. A seeming conflict between two worldly situations is immediately resolved once I perceive my broader moral purpose.
If I say that the Supreme Good is too vague, or is so very far away, I am looking in the wrong places. It is rather the clearest thing to me, and the closest thing to me, because it is already an integral part of who I am. It’s like those hokey but wonderful movies from the 1980’s, when the hero discovers how the love of his life had been his best friend all along.
Wednesday, October 9, 2024
The Cave
Tuesday, October 8, 2024
Delphic Maxims 64
Cicero, Tusculan Disputations 4.38
But we ought to be assured, since the boundaries of good and evil are now discovered, as far as they are discoverable by man, that nothing can be desired of philosophy greater or more useful than the discussions which we have held these four days.
For besides instilling a contempt of death, and relieving pain so as to enable men to bear it, we have added the appeasing of grief, than which there is no greater evil to man. For though every perturbation of mind is grievous, and differs but little from madness, yet we are used to say of others when they are under any perturbation, as of fear, joy, or desire, that they are agitated and disturbed; but of those who give themselves up to grief, that they are miserable, afflicted, wretched, unhappy.
So that it does not seem to be by accident, but with reason proposed by you, that I should discuss grief, and the other perturbations separately; for there lies the spring and head of all our miseries; but the cure of grief, and of other disorders, is one and the same in that they are all voluntary, and founded on opinion; we take them on ourselves because it seems right so to do.
Philosophy undertakes to eradicate this error, as the root of all our evils: let us therefore surrender ourselves to be instructed by it, and suffer ourselves to be cured; for while these evils have possession of us, we not only cannot be happy, but cannot be right in our minds.
We must either deny that reason can effect anything, while, on the other hand, nothing can be done right without reason, or else, since philosophy depends on the deductions of reason, we must seek from her, if we would be good or happy, every help and assistance for living well and happily.
Though troubles within the emotions may take on many forms, and express themselves to different degrees, their root cause is always one and the same: the way I am inclined to feel will only be as good or as bad as the way I choose to think. I hardly believe this diminishes the significance of the passions, but rather offers the proper context for their deeper meaning.
This is a blessed relief for me, because I need no longer suffer under the illusion that my pain is somehow beyond my power. Do I find myself drowning in gratification, or driven to lust, or laid low by grief, or consumed by fear? By attending to my own judgements about the true nature of benefit and harm, I can learn to find the strength inside of me, instead of relying on the circumstances outside of me. I am now free to stand on my own two feet, not to be tossed about by fortune.
While grief may seem to be the most oppresive of these disorders, for it has such an immediate knack for stifling any possibility of joy, all four varieties are ultimately problems of estimation. Instead of crying out, “Why has this happened to me?”, I retain the option of stating clearly, “You will only harm me as much as I permit you to do so. My happiness is for me to determine!”
This will not come to me magically, or just by wishing, or without my rigorous effort: it demands the formation of a conscience, which is, in turn, a fruit of philosophy, understood in its most vital sense. A book won’t be enough, and a fancy degree won’t cut it, and it certainly has nothing to do with putting on an intellectual charade, since philosophy is only of use when we join the theory and the practice, the ideal to the real, the thinking with the doing.
When Cicero insists that a love of wisdom is the cure, I do not imagine a stern portrait of a whiskered man. I instead find inspiration by turning to one of my favorite paintings by Mattia Preti, in which Lady Philosophy offers comfort to the despondent Boethius, whose adversity illustrates the challenges each one of us must face. She presents him with hard reasons, not cheap excuses, and that is surely the greatest kindness.
Monday, October 7, 2024
Ruins 11
Sunday, October 6, 2024
Sayings of Ramakrishna 252
Cicero, Tusculan Disputations 4.37
I was often told it was good for me to outraged at someone who offended me, or to satisfy my libido whenever I felt the urge, as if I were bound by some primal necessity. Yet I am a man, not a beast, since I possess the power of judgment.
What if I decided to express a rapport instead of a resentment, or to be respectful instead of randy? If it is natural to obey every longing, then why are these libertines so miserable? If it is impossible to resist a compulsion, then why are those modest folks in the corner so at peace?
There was nothing great about Alexander when he killed Cleitus during a drunken argument, and his remorse was then hardly noble when he succumbed to despair. He was not required to act as he did, but he could only have mastered his excesses by comprehending his own predilections.
Yes, whether we are somehow born with them or we acquire them through long practice, our tendencies become like a part of our makeup. No, such dispositions do not bind us to our fate. The improvement of our nature is to decide how we will find a way to rise above them.
In other words, an ailment is not our natural state. Of course, Socrates knew that he had flaws, though what made him a man of worth was his willingness to overcome them, by means of seeking wisdom and virtue. By struggling to know himself, his own peculiar personality within the greater design of Nature, he becomes something of a role model for the confused thinker desperately trying to find his way.
Saturday, October 5, 2024
Friday, October 4, 2024
Stoic Snippets 249
Cicero, Tusculan Disputations 4.36
“Where was there ever impudence like thine?
Who on thy malice ever could refine?”
You know what follows: for abuses are thrown out by these brothers with great bitterness in every other verse; so that you may easily know them for the sons of Atreus, of that Atreus who invented a new punishment for his brother:
“I who his cruel heart to gall am bent,
Some new, unheard-of torment must invent.”
Now, what were these inventions? Hear Thyestes:
“My impious brother fain would have me eat
My children, and thus serves them up for meat.”
To what length now will not anger go? Even as far as madness. Therefore, we say, properly enough, that angry men have given up their power, that is, they are out of the power of advice, reason, and understanding; for these ought to have power over the whole mind.
Now, you should put those out of the way whom they endeavor to attack till they have recollected themselves; but what does recollection here imply but getting together again the dispersed parts of their mind into their proper place?
Or else you must beg and entreat them, if they have the means of revenge, to defer it to another opportunity, until their anger cools.
But the expression of cooling implies, certainly, that there was a heat raised in their minds in opposition to reason; from which consideration that saying of Archytas is commended, who being somewhat provoked at his steward “How would I have treated you,” said he, “if I had not been in a passion?"
Even as I can distinguish between the nature of different emotions, they are invariably bound up together in daily living, each one feeding into another. It is no accident, for example, that lust and anger are so closely aligned, since the failure to acquire what I crave will soon be turned into wrath, and my disappointment with myself is redirected toward blaming someone else.
Indeed, the degree of the grudge is often in a direct proportion to the degree of the longing. That lost love of my life is now so livid that she refuses to acknowledge me when we pass on the street, though, to be fair, she once pointed her finger at me and laughed hysterically. I instinctively feel the pain, of course, but then I remember how I can choose not to wallow in gloom or to stew in resentment.
I am sometimes asked why the Stoic model of the passions doesn’t have a separate place for anger, and I can only suggest that any sort of hatred is also just another perversion of love. Instead of wishing the good for another, I somehow perceive a benefit in another suffering harm: it can be called anger when I still hope for a bitter satisfaction, and malice when I finally take my nasty delight.
And how swiftly it can drive us to insanity! I cannot bear to dwell for too long on most of the things I thought were out of joy and love, though they were really symptoms of gratification and lust. That I wince at the thought of them can, I suppose, be taken as a good sign, for at least something of my conscience remains intact.
I should never mock the lover when he is infatuated, or later denounce him when he is vengeful, because I have hardly done any better myself; though it is self-inflicted, it is nevertheless a sort of madness.
I have learned so much from the tragic tales of the House of Atreus, and yet these, too, make me shudder, such that I almost become consumed by the intensity of the feeling, no longer knowing right from wrong. I need to forget about who started it, and to focus on who is going to have the decency to finish it without any spite.
We rightly advise a period of “cooling off” when we feel angry, though in the worst cases a passage of time might only make the hostility more ferocious. Whatever the severity of the rage, however, the key is always in recovering a control over our judgments, and thereby taming our emotions, which is properly a return to our natural state.
Thursday, October 3, 2024
Chuang Tzu 6.1
Cicero, Tusculan Disputations 4.35
Some people think an old love may be driven out by a new one, as one nail drives out another: but, above all things, the man thus afflicted should be advised what madness love is: for of all the perturbations of the mind, there is not one which is more vehement; for (without charging it with rapes, debaucheries, adultery, or even incest, the baseness of any of these being very blamable; not, I say, to mention these) the very perturbation of the mind in love is base of itself, for, to pass over all its acts of downright madness, what weakness do not those very things which are looked upon as indifferent argue?
"Affronts and jealousies, jars, squabbles, wars,
Then peace again. The man who seeks to fix
These restless feelings, and to subjugate
Them to some regular law, is just as wise
As one who’d try to lay down rules by which
Men should go mad."
Now, is not this inconstancy and mutability of mind enough to deter anyone by its own deformity?
We are to demonstrate, as was said of every perturbation, that there are no such feelings which do not consist entirely of opinion and judgment, and are not owing to ourselves. For if love were natural, all would be in love, and always so, and all love the same object; nor would one be deterred by shame, another by reflection, another by satiety.
A diversion can offer me a bit of relief from the agitation, or some support in overcoming my fixation, but it is never, in itself, a complete solution. I nod as I go over Cicero’s list, recalling how a change of scenery helped me for a time, or some fresh company lightened the load, or a new project kept my mind occupied, and yet my troubles always returned if I didn’t go to the root, by addressing the errors in my thinking that produced such disordered feelings.
Lust, as the twisted version of love, comes over me when my judgments about the good are confused. While I might wish to blame my beloved for not desiring me in return, or to curse the world for not providing me with the satisfaction I demand, the cure for what ails me is a thorough reform of my priorities. An obese man will not become healthy without finally mastering his own cravings.
What is the point to moving around, when every place will ultimately offer the very same temptations? Where is the benefit to finding new friends, if I fail to understand what it even means to be a friend? As much as I can keep myself busy, won’t there eventually come the time when I am once again idle? The change must occur in the substance on the inside, not in the accidents on the outside.
A fellow I knew some years ago was convinced that hanging out a different pub would relieve him of his melancholy, and I rudely laughed at him, even as I later convinced myself to take a completely different job as a repellant against my own version of the Black Dog. I wish I could meet him again, so we might now laugh together, in much better spirits.
When a girl in college lied to me once too often, I promptly became enamored of a totally different girl, and when her attention quickly drifted elsewhere, I foolishly assumed that I simply had poor taste. I certainly did have poor taste, but in my own values, not in the merits of others. Find fault with the agent, or the efficient cause, not with the occasion, or the material cause.
I have now acquired many eccentric hobbies, and though each of them has brought me great joy, not a one of them has exorcised my demons. Collecting obscure records only goes so far to engage my interests, and it just takes a single sour mood to turn the words and music of any song into a sad reflection of my own resentment.
There is an elephant in the room, and he is my own discontent, which is the inevitable offspring of my distorted expectations. I wish him no harm, but he’s the one who needs to find some new digs.
Wednesday, October 2, 2024
Dhammapada 387
Cicero, Tusculan Disputations 4.34
The Stoics, in truth, say, not only that their wise man may be a lover, but they even define love itself as an endeavor to originate friendship out of the appearance of beauty.
Now, provided there is any one in the nature of things without desire, without care, without a sigh, such a one may be a lover; for he is free from all lust: but I have nothing to say to him, as it is lust of which I am now speaking. But should there be any love—as there certainly is—which is but little, or perhaps not at all, short of madness, such as his is in the Leucadia—
“Should there be any God whose care I am—"
it is incumbent on all the Gods to see that he enjoys his amorous pleasure.
“Wretch that I am!”
Nothing is more true, and he says very appropriately,
“What, are you sane, who at this rate lament?”
He seems even to his friends to be out of his senses: then how tragical he becomes!
“Thy aid, divine Apollo, I implore,
And thine, dread ruler of the wat’ry store!
Oh! all ye winds, assist me!”
He thinks that the whole world ought to apply itself to help his love: he excludes Venus alone, as unkind to him.
“Thy aid, O Venus, why should I invoke?”
He thinks Venus too much employed in her own lust to have regard to anything else, as if he himself had not said and committed these shameful things from lust.
When I am not making cheap excuses for myself, I have to admit how almost all the problems of my life revolve around extreme passions derived from disordered judgments, and why the most cringeworthy of these anxieties are ultimately about the selfish entanglements of romantic love.
I try to defend this, of course, by insisting that love is a noble and glorious thing, but I know on the inside how I am really just talking about various forms of lust, whether for physical or emotional gratification. As soon as I say that it can’t be helped, and I elevate my suffering to the status of some honorable burden, I must bow to the deeper truth of what Cicero, and the Stoics, are trying to teach me.
Once again, it is a shame that I use the term “love” so broadly and lazily, confusing a dazed feeling that “comes over me” with a deliberate act of the will: “falling” in love has brought me despair, while choosing to love has been my redemption. If professional definitions can be so precise, why do our moral distinctions lag so far behind? The difficulty is in our thinking, not in any complexities of the subject matter.
Songs, films, poems, and novels about the power of the love, along with the grief from the broken hearts that follow, surely have their place, yet they will only rub salt in the wound when my soul is already in disarray. Self-pity is hardly the right medicine for the illusion of irreparable loss.
Be a lover, but don’t be lecherous. Once we bicker about the technicalities, we are forgetting how the purity of the intent is the deciding factor, and I can finally understand something of why Justice Potter Stewart didn’t wish to get caught up in defining pornography, even as he clearly knew it when he saw it.
I, too, have found myself blaming God for cursing me with love, quite oblivious to the fact that God also gave me the power of reason to determine my own actions. I, too, have begged for some sort of magical intervention, only to learn the hard way that relying on the fickle nature of the passions, and the inconstancy of fortune, is a sure path to misery.
No, Apollo won’t be bothered to satisfy my lusts, because he is occupied with something greater, and Venus won’t quench my desires, because she is too busy tending to her own. I have made my own bed, and now I have to lie in it.