Building upon many years of privately shared thoughts on the real benefits of Stoic Philosophy, Liam Milburn eventually published a selection of Stoic passages that had helped him to live well. They were accompanied by some of his own personal reflections. This blog hopes to continue his mission of encouraging the wisdom of Stoicism in the exercise of everyday life. All the reflections are taken from his notes, from late 1992 to early 2017.
Reflections
Primary Sources
Monday, August 30, 2021
Sayings of Ramakrishna 109
Epictetus, Discourses 1.10.1
If we had been as earnest and serious about our work as old men in Rome are about their concerns, we too might perhaps have achieved something.
I know what was said to me by a man older than myself, who is now in charge of the corn supply in Rome, when he passed through here on his way back from exile; he ran down his former life and made great professions for the future, saying that when once he was back he would have no other interest except to live out the rest of his life in peace and tranquility, “For how little I have still left me”, said he.
And I said to him, “You will not do it; so soon as you sniff the air of Rome you will forget all your professions”; and I told him that if he got a chance of entering the Palace, he would thrust his way in and give God thanks.
“Epictetus,” he answered, “if you find me putting one foot in the Palace, believe what you like of me.”
Well, what did he do? Before he came to Rome, a dispatch from the Emperor met him, and as soon as he got it, he forgot all he had said and has gone on adding to his heap ever since.
I should like to stand by him now and remind him of the words he used as he passed through, and say to him, “How much more clever a prophet am I than you!”
I am regularly told that Stoicism is an unrealistic philosophy, a claim I also hear applied to any way of life that looks to the dignity of the person over the convenience of profit.
“Yes, it sounds nice as an idea, but who could ever manage to live that way? It’s easy for Epictetus to say that you should seek your virtue above all else, or for Jesus to say that you should sell all you have and give it to the poor, but there is no way you can put it into practice. They forget that we have to survive in the real world.”
At first, hearing such words would make me feel angry, and as I grew older, they would more often make me feel discouraged. Yet then I gradually realized how it was only my own attitude that was standing in the way of following through. The irony was that when people insisted that it couldn’t be done, my consequent resentment and fear themselves became the hindrance to a good life, in a self-fulfilling twist.
I should not confuse what is difficult with what is impossible, and, in turn, I should not attribute the difficulty to any external constraints. If I truly know it to be right and good, there is nothing stopping me from putting it into practice.
Look at all the people who sacrifice everything, exerting seemingly superhuman efforts, to win fame and fortune. If I care for wisdom and love just as much as they care for power and money, my goal is hardly beyond my reach.
“But no person can ever be that good! It’s just not part of human nature!”
Perhaps we are beginning with different definitions of human nature. If you see yourself only as a creature of appetite, then those appetites will rule you, and the freedom of your action is indeed now stifled. If I, on the other hand, see myself as also being a creature of reason and will, I have now given myself the opportunity to exercise free judgments. The passions do not determine me, unless I permit them to do so.
“But it’s too hard to do that! No one is that strong!”
You would be right to think that I cannot conquer the world, but you would be wrong to think that, with patience and commitment, I am unable to master myself. Far from being impossible, that is precisely what I was made for. The best things in this life are also the very things that demand the greatest effort; would not even the entrepreneur and the superstar agree?
“But you’ll get nowhere, because everyone else is busy gaining leverage and getting rich, and you can’t go against the force of all those people! That’s not how it’s done!”
Beyond my own desire to conform with the majority, what is keeping me from living as I think it best to live? Again, if I truly believe it to be best, then I will sacrifice anything and everything. I can go so far as to lay aside my life to protect my virtue, just as the grasping man will lay aside his virtue to protect his life.
When you say it is impossible, what you are really saying is that it isn’t important enough for you. That choice is your right, as my choice is my right. Only Providence, not either one of us, will be the final arbiter, and I suppose that only hard experience will tell us where true peace of mind shall be found.
I see the people who have already found their happiness by embracing character first, and they inspire me. I see the many more who are struggling to become better, and they encourage me. It all depends on what is valued the most.
Epictetus looks at the old Roman bureaucrat, and I take away three important lessons:
First, if only all those who say they love philosophy would apply themselves to increasing their understanding and love, as thoroughly as the civil servant applies himself to increasing his position in government, then the philosophers would begin to make a real difference.
Second, the old bureaucrat only said that he is done with the nasty life of politics because he figured that he was out of the game; as soon as he was back in the game, he returned right back to his old ways. Words are cheap, but actions are priceless. It is always necessary to examine what is deep in the heart and the mind, not what is subject to passing whims.
Third, as much as it might pain us, it is important that we be reminded of all the times we have only given our second-best. If it matters, we must stay the course, and if we are merely playing a game, we should hang our heads in shame. Pay your money, and then make your choice. Pardon my French, but no more bullshit.
Sunday, August 29, 2021
Stoic Snippets 97
Saturday, August 28, 2021
Dhammapada 150
Stockdale on Stoicism 11
Seneca, Moral Letters 14.12
Now you are stretching forth your hand for the daily gift. Golden indeed will be the gift with which I shall load you; and, inasmuch as we have mentioned gold, let me tell you how its use and enjoyment may bring you greater pleasure.
"He who needs riches least, enjoys riches most."
"Author's name, please!" you say.
Now, to show you how generous I am, it is my intent to praise the dicta of other schools. The phrase belongs to Epicurus, or Metrodorus, or some one of that particular thinking-shop.
While he puzzles over increasing his wealth, he forgets how to use it. He collects his accounts, he wears out the pavement in the forum, he turns over his ledger—in short, he ceases to be master and becomes a steward. Farewell.
The closing Epicurean quote for this letter is about our estimation of money, though it is, by extension, also about our estimation of any of our conditions.
The less I make myself dependent upon the acquisition of wealth, the more I will be able to make good use of whatever wealth may come my way. Knowing that possessions are only relative, I do not allow them to get the upper hand.
The negative formulation can sometimes be the more forceful motivator for me, so I also add it to keep myself in line: when I long for things too much, I will only find myself at the mercy of such things. There is no peace in being worried about what might happen, and no rest in never having enough.
This is a helpful tool in understanding how to withdraw from the world, not by avoiding the circumstances, but by rising above the circumstances. Stay firm inside of yourself, and only then are you able to able to relate to what goes on outside of yourself.
From an early age, it was already clear to me that I was an oddball, and that I would have great difficulty in meeting the approval of others. In some ways, my first Stoic insight was that I would not need to please the majority in order to be happy, and that I could be quite content by following my own path.
I did not follow this through to its natural conclusion, however, and so I still harbored a deep expectation that somehow, at some point in the future, my situation would fall into place for me. If I was sincere, and worked hard, and went out of my way to show kindness and decency, surely the Good Lord would eventually reward me with some of those nice things that other people had?
This was almost the end of me, as my seemingly innocent hopes had turned into needs, and what should have been preferences were now taking on the form of demands. I pursued a vain career, the company of mercenary friends, and the love of a dishonest woman, and yet I foolishly felt shocked and betrayed when all of them let me down.
“No, they didn’t let you down, since they will be exactly as they will be. You let yourself down, by assuming that they could provide for you what you really needed to provide for yourself.”
Yes, thank you, inner voice! Why didn’t you warn me about that earlier?
“I did, but you wouldn’t hear me, with all the sound of the horns and the drums. You’re welcome.”
A good life is about the virtue in what we do, not about the gratification of what we win. I only recovered something of myself by choosing to do the right thing for its own sake, not for the sake of winning any further compensation, at which point, of course, it ceases to be the right thing.
The Good Lord did reward me, by teaching me an important lesson in self-reliance, the security that doesn’t come from a big bank account, but from a big soul.
Thursday, August 26, 2021
Thomas a Kempis, The Imitation of Christ 3.35
1. "My Son, you are never secure in this life, but your spiritual armor will always be needful for you as long as you live. You dwell among foes, and are attacked on the right hand and on the left. If therefore you use not on all sides the shield of patience, you will not remain long unwounded. Above all, if you keep not your heart fixed upon Me with steadfast purpose to bear all things for My sake, you shall not be able to bear the fierceness of the attack, nor to attain to the victory of the blessed. Therefore must you struggle bravely all your life through, and put forth a strong hand against those things which oppose you. For to him that overcomes is the hidden manna given, but great misery is reserved for the slothful.
Seneca, Moral Letters 14.11
I cannot guarantee you this any more than I can guarantee good health in the case of a man who observes moderation; although, as a matter of fact, good health results from such moderation.
Sometimes a vessel perishes in harbor; but what do you think happens on the open sea? And how much more beset with danger that man would be, who even in his leisure is not secure, if he were busily working at many things!
Innocent persons sometimes perish; who would deny that? But the guilty perish more frequently. A soldier's skill is not at fault if he receives the deathblow through his armor.
And finally, the wise man regards the reason for all his actions, but not the results. The beginning is in our own power; Fortune decides the issue, but I do not allow her to pass sentence upon myself.
You may say: "But she can inflict a measure of suffering and of trouble."
The highwayman does not pass sentence when he slays.
I may still have a nagging feeling that I will never really be secure, that there will always be someone or something out there to threaten me. I want a guarantee, like that warranty they promised me with my new car, but I don’t want it to turn out like that warranty at all, where there was always a clever reason why the flaw or defect wasn’t actually covered.
Some of us may still remember the tone of an earlier generation, when folks, for better or for worse, took pride in being a bit more resilient than they are now. If you complained to them that something wasn’t fair, they bluntly reminded you that life wasn’t fair. Must I begrudgingly accept this maxim?
As with all sayings, it takes a moment of reflection to make proper sense of it. I can never expect that events will unfold as I prefer, or that other people will treat me with decency. At the same time, however, I can always be certain that I am able to find the benefit and blessing in anything for myself, because it depends only on my own choices. I don’t have to accept that begrudgingly at all.
This is one the of the basic principles of Stoicism at work, that some things are within our power, while other things are quite beyond it. Attend to what is your own, and you will retain the security of your own character; make demands that the world must dance to your tune, and you will meet with constant disappointments.
Whether or not I am safe from harm depends entirely on where I place the measure of my life. Nature can never guarantee me that the circumstances will be gratifying, but she has made sure that I can decide to make my character inviolable. What happens won’t always be fair, though what I do with what happens can always be fair.
It is this context, therefore, that I think of Seneca’s advice on withdrawing from the world. No, don’t try to escape from it all. Engage, reach out, speak with integrity, act with respect; just don’t assume that the conditions will be as friendly, and don’t tempt fate by raising unnecessary obstacles to your happiness. The withdrawal is a sense of reliance on your own virtues instead of the fickle ways of Fortune.
So no, there is no guarantee when it comes to property, reputation, or the satisfaction of the body, even as that does not give me an excuse for being careless or reckless about my body. There is no prudence in making it harder than it has to be; an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
I may get sick, but there is no point in getting sicker by eating poorly. My boat may sink, but there is no point in hastening its end by going out in a hurricane. Most importantly, a wicked man may abuse me, but there is no point in offering him any incentive by attracting his greedy attention.
Have I prepared myself for whatever might come my way? Then I have done my job, and there is no shame in finally drawing the short straw. There is great shame, however, in the downfall of the wicked man, because his defeat follows so readily from his own chosen weakness, a slavery to whatever comes his way.
I am especially grateful to Seneca for reminding me that my good is in how I am disposed toward things, not in how they are disposed toward me. I need to hear this daily, to gladly accept that Fortune will go about doing her thing, and Providence only asks that I, in turn, go about doing my thing with prudence, fortitude, temperance, and justice.
Wednesday, August 25, 2021
Fear
Sayings of Ramakrishna 108
Seneca, Moral Letters 14.10
The wise man will not upset the customs of the people, nor will he invite the attention of the populace by any novel ways of living.
Some philosophers, like the Epicureans, have argued for distancing oneself from politics, yet for the Stoics, the very fact that man is a rational animal demands that he also be a social and political animal.
I first learned it from Aristotle, and then later Marcus Aurelius confirmed it for me. We are made to work with one another, though the trick, as Seneca tries to explain, revolves around working in peace and quiet instead of conflict and noise.
Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater; don’t run from associations, but rather choose them carefully and nurture them gently. There will be times when we must face the storm, so it is quite unnecessary to make waves in the meantime.
A big part of the problem, I suppose, is how we even use a term like “politics”. Though it’s a crying shame, when most people hear “stoic”, they think of someone cold and unfeeling, and when they hear “political”, they think of backstabbing and corruption. I remind myself to avoid the confusion. To be a Stoic is to live according to Nature, and to be political is to share bonds with your neighbors. If someone chooses to abuse these actions, I should not hold it against the principles.
Yes, to determine how, and to what extent, the Stoic should engage in public life is a further question, but for the moment it is sufficient to establish that the best people are not usually the ones who are stomping their feet or picking fights. I do not need to be in the public eye to contribute to the public good, and I think it no accident that the kindest and most decent people are most often those who are quite content to do their work without any fanfare.
Am I somehow feeling the need to yell my grievances in someone’s face? Why might I want that? I am deluding myself if I think that this will make either of us any better: I have now acted like a brute, and my chosen opponent now has a reason to resent me. It was really about my pride, not about justice.
Am I itching to fix the world, to break everything down and then to build it up again in my own image? Why might I want that? I am confusing doing right for myself with demanding that everyone else do right by me; I have reached that point where the soldier for justice becomes nothing more than another big bully. I am well advised to let people live as they think best, as much as I am able, and to attend first to fixing myself.
Tuesday, August 24, 2021
Ellis Walker, Epictetus in Poetical Paraphrase 17
A fool, because you tamely set at naught
Things not within your pow'r, but pass them by
Without a wish, with a regardless eye;
A senseless stock, because no loss or pain
Makes you lament or childishly complain.
Never pretend to skill, nor wish to seem
Deep learn'd, nor court a popular esteem:
But if, admir'd by men, you pass for wise,
And draw their list'ning ears, and foll'wing eyes,
Rather mistrust, and doubt yourself from thence,
They're oftner fond of folly than of sense;
While they admire, while you their praises hear,
You're nearer to the fool than e'er you were:
'Tis very likely some gross vanity,
They fancy in themselves, and love to see
Ripen'd in you to full maturity:
As lust of glory, or a strong desire
Of wealth, or pow'r, or splendour in attire,
'Tis altogether vain, to think t'adhere
To the strict principles agreed on here,
While you the course quite contrary do steer,
To things not in your pow'r; which if you reach,
You needs must quit the discipline we teach.
Monday, August 23, 2021
Stoic Snippets 96
Seneca, Moral Letters 14.9
"Very well, then," you retort, "do you regard the philosophy of Marcus Cato as moderate? Cato's voice strove to check a civil war. Cato parted the swords of maddened chieftains. When some fell foul of Pompey and others fell foul of Caesar, Cato defied both parties at once!"
Nevertheless, one may well question whether, in those days, a wise man ought to have taken any part in public affairs, and ask: "What do you mean, Marcus Cato? It is not now a question of freedom; long since has freedom gone to rack and ruin. The question is, whether it is Caesar or Pompey who controls the State. Why, Cato, should you take sides in that dispute? It is no business of yours; a tyrant is being selected. What does it concern you who conquers? The better man may win; but the winner is bound to be the worse man."
I have referred to Cato's final role. But even in previous years the wise man was not permitted to intervene in such plundering of the state; for what could Cato do but raise his voice and utter unavailing words? At one time he was "hustled" by the mob and spat upon and forcibly removed from the forum and marked for exile; at another, he was taken straight to prison from the senate-chamber.
I may get the wrong impression here, that the Stoic should live the life of a doormat, or that it is better to hide away in a corner than to take a stand. Once again, it all boils down to the difference between rashly looking for a conflict and prudently facing a conflict. The Stoic will certainly draw the line, but only when the practice of virtue absolutely demands it, and only when he has exhausted every other option.
Cato the Younger has long been a hero to many Stoics, and for very good reason: his unwavering opposition to corruption and tyranny in Rome was a prime example of moral courage, and his willingness to surrender all else for his principles can only inspire the deepest admiration. Surely Cato did not avoid hardship to follow what he knew to be right? If Cato didn’t stay out of trouble, why should we?
Such an objection to taking the most peaceful route seems quite reasonable, and yet it can easily obscure the reasons why someone like Cato acted as he did. There is an option in between being hotheaded and cowardly, and it centers upon the purity of our actions, regardless of our control over the circumstances.
Now the likes of Caesar, Pompey, or Crassus fought because they wished to increase their own fame, power, and wealth, while Cato fought for the dictates of his conscience. The First Triumvirate went looking for strife, while Cato labored to remove the very sources of that strife. There is a stark contrast between engaging in public life for reasons of greed and for reasons of service.
Seneca hardly intends any disrespect to Cato when he speculates about whether his actions were truly necessary, and I imagine he does so precisely to get us thinking about our own motives. I don’t know if Cato ever believed he could “win” his battle against those who assaulted the old ways of Rome, though his sense of what constituted a victory diverged drastically from that of Caesar. Cato felt he needed to do the right thing, and Caesar only wanted to do the gratifying thing.
By all means, avoid the trouble if you can, but bear it with dignity if you must. Cato is in many ways a deeply tragic figure, and thankfully not all of us will have to make the choices he did. One can hope that he would have acted otherwise if his back hadn’t been up against the wall, and that he did not decide on his resistance out of recklessness.
Sunday, August 22, 2021
The Character of a Happy Life
"The Character of a Happy Life"
Sir Henry Wotton (1568-1639)
That serveth not another's will;
Whose armour is his honest thought,
And simple truth his utmost skill;
Whose soul is still prepared for death,
Untied unto the world by care
Of public fame or private breath;
Who envies none that chance doth raise,
Nor vice; who never understood
How deepest wounds are given by praise;
Nor rule of state, but rules of good;
Who hath his life from rumours freed;
Whose conscience is his strong retreat;
Whose state can neither flatterers feed,
Nor ruin make oppressors great;
Who God doth late and early pray
More of his grace than gifts to lend;
And entertains the harmless day
With a religious book or friend.
This man is freed from servile bands
Of hope to rise or fear to fall;
Lord of himself, though not of lands,
And having nothing, yet hath all.